First of all, talk to women on the internet as you would in real life, and don't start any sexual conversation with me unless we have talked enough and you got my consent for it. I AM NOT INTERESTED IN ONLINE PLAY!

__Introduction__

Olá! I am Juliana. I am originally from Brazil and I recently moved back to Amsterdam, from Portugal. I am looking for a sweet sub, who is always respectul and classy. If you are looking for a female led relationship as I am, check out what I am looking for in details, before messaging me. Also check my whole profile on Fetlife (Volutopia). Take the full test on bdsmtest.org. If the results for "switch" are higher than 10%, please do not message me. I do not get along with switches.

__About me__

I am a progressive, a feminist, anti-capitalist, anti-imperialist, nerdy lady who loves being at home watching movies (but who *does not* like Star Wars, Harry Potter or Lord of the Rings haha), videos and series. I love reading, playing videogames, doing jigsaw puzzles, listening to audiobooks/podcasts, stories, rock/metal, some of the bands I like are: She Wants Revenge, After Forever, HIM, Volbeat, Diablo Swing Orchestra, Skindred, Miasthenia, Defacing God etc. I love going to concerts, playing boardgames (mostly party ones), watching stand-up comedy, dancing (retro music and bellydance), being in nature/in the water and swimming. I am interested in sustainability, healthy eating and healthy lifestyle in general. My favorite food is pamonha, second favorite is Green Thai Curry.

I am very bossy and I like to tell things like it is, so, don't be a winny little bitch and have some thick skin. I have a gentle side and I am very romantic and loving but I slap balls for a laugh and I am very much into humiliation/SPH and fall for people who are sweet after I am mean to them and for people who can make me laugh and who say clever things.

I give a lot of attention and compliments to my sub and lots of hugs and kisses too. Don't expect praise for every single thing you do for me but know that I pay attention to everything and appreciate real efforts and dedication and that I love a sub who pays attention to details. None of these kinks can be among your limits, as they are big for me: foot worship, humiliation and CBT if that applies to your gender. I have a mommy fetish when I am dating people who are some years younger than me, but be mature, be stable and consistent. I am an empowered woman, who has a lot of experience, so I will not put up with BS :)

I would be open for relocation in a few years.

This is me: https://imgur.com/a/HT1BDCF.

__What I am looking for__

You have to be single and not dating anyone or anything like it. I am mostly attracted to White and Asian people. Your cock size has to be at least 14 cm and if it is smaller than 18 cm you can expect some SPH, if we end up building a relationship. If there is no connection and long term goals, I have zero interest in humiliating you. Even though I have a size requirement, I do not want an agressive, arrogant guy, like guys with big dicks seem to often be. When it comes to men, I prefer them to be around 1,80m or taller. I am not into very chubby guys. I am looking for someone who makes efforts to be a decent person, as I do.

If you need to have kids, I am not the right person for you.

The dream would be to live a kinky and loving life, where we grow some organic veggies and flowers together, have cozy moments watching horror movies and do marathons of series, under the blankets and, are honest at all times with each other and have open communication with one another. I would never lie to my partner and I am looking for someone who also would never lie to me. Lying is betraying and not acceptable on a D/s. I don't believe in words until you show me that your actions back up what you say. I know how common it is for people to lie and lying is against my principles, I want to find someone who takes honesty seriously as I do and it is your job to show me that you are different and better than all the time wasters.

I am a very open person and do not want to deal with immature people who are afraid of living. Do not message me if you are not ready to meet a Mistress in real life: "ready" means willing and capable of meeting in Amsterdam, within a month, maximum. If after you tell me enough of you for me to be interested, you try to keep the conversation on Reddit only, and don't want to talk on Whatsapp or Instagram/Facebook, I will think you might have a girlfriend, you are not serious or, worse: that you might be dangerous. Men like to complaing about that time they showed their willies on the internet and got blackmailed but women can also be scammed... Have you seen Bad Surgeon on Netflix??

You have to make sure you give me a good feeling, that I am spending my time getting to know you with a goal be together in real life, and you have to make me feel safe to meet you. If you don't get personal or sound like someone who just wants to live a fantasy in your head, it is likely that I will block you. So if you cannot meet within a month (less than a month, if you live in The Netherlands) then talk to me when you can. I live in an amazing city, that is 100% worth travelling to ;)

I care about physical and mental heatlh. I noticed that in the BDSM community there is a lot of mental health struggle such as depression and social anxiety, and that many subs seem to have neurodevelopmental disorders (being autistic or having ADHD). If any of that is your case, which you should inform me in your first message, you can only message me if you take care of your mind, put on work to be a great partner, which you might need help from a professional to achieve, see a psychiatrist, psycologist, take medication or do whatever therapy that works for you. I am looking for something stable and you have to be stable too, so we can evolve together. One tip though, look up medicine that our Mother Earth has for our minds - psychedelics - But please keep in mind that if you abuse any drugs, including natural ones (even coffee), or you self medicate because you do not want to work on your mental issues, I cannot be your Domme. I do not want someone who is high often, nor anyone who smokes anything (marijuana included) or is addicted to any drugs such as nicotine, Xanax, alcohol or coffee (I don't drink these last two, or soda for that matter)... maybe you got the idea. Smoking anything is not something I allow my sub to do.

I know how to keep a place clean and organized, and I expect those qualities from you. An example of an ideal quality time with my sub would be to have him or her gently run their fingers on my back while we listen to some creepy story together. Another sweet thing I like to have with my sub, is that he puts lotion on my skin everyday, as a daily, cute, couple thing. I am a horror fan and have endless reccomendations for people who like horror too haha You have to enjoy creepy stuff too as I listen and/or watch stuff like this everyday and like to do it with a partner when I am in a relationship.

Respect is the basis of an FLR and you *always* have to express yourself with ultimate respect towards me, which means, besides kissing the floor I walk on (figuratevely and literally), being a feminist and a supporter of immigrants' rights and a world with no borders!I am looking for something serious that will, hopefully, last a lifetime. Something that will evolve to living together and adopting cats an perhaps a dog and a rabbit too :)

Eventually, I am looking for something that will evolve to a female led marriage and I want someone who is into regular couple things too, like vanilla sex.

__How to contact me__

CLEAR FACE PICTURE OR A VIDEO OF YOU TALKING, ON YOUR FIRST MESSAGE, IS A REQUIREMENT.DO NOT SEND ME A MESSAGE IF WE HAVE NO VALUES/HOBBIES IN COMMON and DO NOT send me your list of your sexual fantasies in your first message: this is just gross, coming from strangers on internet and it immediately shows that you have poor social/dating skills.I don't answer lazy, generic messages or messages from people I don't know what they look like, so if after reading my ad, you decide to send me a message, make sure it is a well written message: Don't overuse slang or "lol" or use too much emojis. Use punctuation! Know the difference between "your and "you're". I love language and I find it sexy when someone is articulate and writes well.

Attraction is essential and I have to know if you are my type physically, before engaging in a conversation with you and, to be quite blunt, nothing substitutes a cute face for me. I block/ignore way more people than I answer and just because I have answered you, it does not mean you got a free pass for BS. If you talk to me without showing your face ON YOUR FIRST MESSAGE, you will not be respecting my limits since the very beginning and showing you cannot follow basic instructions, in this case, you have no use for me. If you do not want to show your face, I am not interested in knowing why you do not want to send a picture or video or how hot you think you are. If you hide your face, you should talk to women who also hide their face, not with me.

Don't dump your fetishes on me, as if you are hiring a service, and do not try to turn the conversation into a sex chat - it will just get you blocked. If you decide to message me, let me know why you think we could be a match in a relationship and what values and hobbies we share. Also include your height and weight in meters/kg.

It is your job to show me that you know that an FLR is what you want. Tell me what you have that I am looking for. Inform me on your fist message if you expect monogamy or not. It is important that, if you are not near me, you inform me that you are able to travel to me regularly and that you can travel soon for a first meeting, and tell me how we could possibly live together one day, if we turn out to be an amazing match! I will expect relevant questions from a possible candidate and I will expect that we make plans for an immediate future (when we could meet, what vanilla activiites we could do together), and that we talk about our expectations and logistics of a life together, in case we find out that we are right for each other.

If I answer you and state that you are attractive, it is time for you to: 1- send me a quick video of you saying something (saying whatever, don't ask me what to say), post it on Imgur or wherever and send me the link, do not ask me for any contact outside of Reddit before I see the video. Make sure to let me see the color of your eyes well on it. If I confirm that you are my type after seeing the video, 2 - Send me the results of the full test on bdsmtest.org, 3 - Send me the answers to my Questionnaire that is on my profile on Fetlife. I will not engage in much conversation with you before you do these 3 things.

I am looking for something serious so you have to have time to talk daily, send "good morning" and "good night" messages and show legitimate interest in getting to know me as a person. If I fall in love with you, you will be my precious possession :)

__What I have little to no interest__

For the cucks out there, don't come with the BBC, the hookups, the interracial or the bi male stuff: If I cuck someone it will be for my enjoyment, if you like what I like to do, great, but I will not be your object. The following fetishes are **super low** on my interests and could only be part of our D/s as rewards for hard (non sexual) work: bondage, chastity, fetishists clothes and high heels. .

LIMITS: People who have a fetish of eating c*m, sissies, crossdressers, conservatives, smokers, addicts.

PS: I get overwhelmed with messages so I cannot also follow comments. If you think we might be a match for dating or friendship, talk to me in private.

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