Hi, I'm looking to meet someone for a female led relationship where behind closed doors I would be submissive towards you. Our outward facing persona is something that we could decide together but I would tend to prefer seeming traditional at first glance. I'm happy submitting behind closed doors but I do work in a masculine field and my appearance there does matter to me.

Personality is most important so it would be best to see if we get along by talking and getting a feel for the general vibe, I'm an open book, so ask me your deal breaker questions and I'll give you my honest opinion. I'm a kind and caring person and would want the same, which may be a tough ask given the kink side of things, but I digress.

Kink-wise, the biggest is serving/doing what you tell me you want. I get the most fulfillment out of knowing my partner is fulfilled. I'm most engaged when a partner is telling me exactly what they want in that moment and knowing that I'm helping them get there.

My favourite ways to get there would be things like body worship (giving), chastity, pegging, humiliation, JOI/CEI, and cuckolding. This isn't an exhaustive list as much as a general outline and none of the kinks are must-haves. I'd love to hear what you're looking for in this regard. I like being bossed around and having my boundaries pushed. I like being teased, I like when someone knows they're able to take advantage of my willingness to please. I enjoy being denied even while finding it incredibly frustrating. I like pegging because of the power exchange and the feeling of submission. I enjoy the feeling of powerlessness that comes with being tied down or locked up. I get a deep yearning to please you directly proportional to how degraded I feel. To that end, the verbal side of kink really gets me going. The build up of a softly spoken threat before the act itself creates an intoxicating layer of desire for me. The more you're willing to say, the quicker I'll turn into a submissive plaything in any given scene.

My limits are most of the obvious ones, like kids, scat, permanent marks and things along those lines. I wouldn't say those are my only limits, but they're hard limits. If you have something in mind, ask and I'll let you know my feelings on it. I won't kink shame you but I will let you know if it's a bridge too far for me. I'd like to think I'm willing to try all things once.

In my private life, I like to spend time with friends, gaming, or doing things outside like ski or hike. I have a good job, and I'm good at it but it's in a professional field, so discretion is important to me to start. I enjoy reading, usually fantasy or history, watching movies and some anime. I listen to podcasts and documentaries, I enjoy audiobooks. For games I enjoy everything from a good rpg to a competitive multi-player game, but would say my favourites are the ones that get played with friends.

I don't have any idealized body type in mind and would say I'm most attracted to personality, but physical attraction is important so sharing pictures early on (safe for work) is something that I'd like, but I'm happy to feel eachother out through conversation first. For age, I'm also not picturing anything in particular and would rather just talk to people on an individual level. Extreme gaps probably won't make for the best matches, but I think connection matters most.

I'm 6'1", 200lbs and physically active. I'd rather spend a night inside but am happy going out for the occasional late night partying or vacation. I'm happiest at home with a loved one or out doing something fun in nature. I like concerts and quiet nights with a book in equal measure. I'm working on being healthier now that I'm in my 30s. I want to enjoy my hobbies for as long as possible.

I'm open to trying new things, new hobbies, and generally experiencing a wider variety of lifes offerings. I'd love to travel more and see more of the world. Places with world history rank higher for me but I love a good tropical beach and relaxing the nights away.

I can be sarcastic but try not to overdo it, I enjoy bad jokes. I'm not very sensitive about politically correct issues and am hard to offend, but I still do my best to respect the people those things do matter to. I like to be kind whenever I can and try to avoid belittling others.

I would say I identify as a sub leaning switch, I can be dominant in the right setting but am happiest being told what to do. The ideal person for me would be vocal about exactly what she needs and my place in that. But I still want a caring relationship to go with it. If this sounds like you, please message or chat at me. I'm not in a rush and am quite happy with myself so I'd like to wait for the right person but would also be open to meeting quickly if the connection feels right.

I feel like Nickolodeon is largely responsible for my preference towards mean goth girls, and I'm not sure if I should thank them or curse them for what they've done.

Ideally you're located in Canada, with bonus points awarded to Vancouver or BC. If you're located somewhere else and fit what I'm looking for in other areas I'd still really like to hear from you. I'd be open to relocating for the right person or having them relocate to Canada.

If it matters to you, I'm white/Caucasian but I personally don't have a racial preference and am interested in meeting everyone. This is the longest write up I've ever done for myself in any sort of online dating sense, so congrats if you've managed to make it all the way to the end and thank you for reading.