Looking to date a local single, responsible about their overall health, non-smoker of any substances with the shared intention to mutually build a monogamous relationship balanced with relational intimacy and a self-accountable growth mindset.

Not into any kind of ENM.

About me: In the vanilla space, my hobbies range from webnovels and webtoons to climbing and enjoying the scenery, reading up on emotions and connecting with people. Weekends: at the park/getting fresh air, at a cafe, or cozying up to a book with tea. Travel: stay-cations with the occasional month-long annual vacation elsewhere. I strive for and appreciate a balance of curiosity, light-heartedness and thoughtfulness. My intention is to co-create emotional trust with someone I vibe with such that we can appreciate our differences as a team and work towards repair when relational ruptures happen.

East Asian, 5'4", single, physically slim. Switch with high emotional intimacy and physical affection needs/libido. Seeking someone similar who loves to give oral/sex-toy positive and most importantly, emotionally self-regulates to approach relationship-building with open and flexible communication.

What I’m seeking (SFW):

Someone intending to co-create an intimate and connected relationship forged through each time we show up for potentially hard yet human conversations. Someone who I can mutually navigate conflict and repair with and be at ease. We practice tuning into when our stuff comes up during conflict with check-ins as appropriate.

Mutual emotional and non-sexual physical intimacy are fundamental to the relationship as is the willingness to discover compatibility. It’s important we feel comfortable with each other to foster trust and increased capacity for progressive vulnerability. Let's build an intimate, connected relationship that balances heart-to-heart conversations and playful curiosity for a sustainable relationship.

I prefer to get to know someone virtually first to rule out mutual dealbreakers and connect on a SFW compatibility basis before anything else.

Lazy Sundays cuddling and enjoying each other's company are how I like to spend weekends together. We're both clear on what we want to try and can be comfortable expressing our limits in a judgement-free zone.

Please be between the ages of 26-40 and be slim to lean, and have a comment/post history. No throwaway accounts or anyone who already disrespects my boundaries stated here, including my non-negotiables.

Basic non-negotiable requireds:

• Also similar in terms of: local, single and childfree, willing to have a conversation around each other's sexual health risk profile and be fully tested before any intimacy, non-smoker of any substances

• Shares compatible intentions around also seeking a monogamous relationship and the capacity to emotionally self-regulate

• Willingness to repair around relational ruptures/conflict. Understands that I am also learning and growing alongside them

• Between the ages of 26-40

• Slim to lean body type

• Also gainfully employed as am I

• Able to make time to be intentionally present for quality in-person time together 2-3 times a week consistently

• Physically affectionate/cuddly

• Willing to initiate or participate in potentially uncomfortable conversations around either person's needs

• Wanting to explore compatible kinks (mine is roleplay) within the values of safety, comfort and negotiation of calibration of touch

• Proactively navigates mutual consent and expresses their needs and limits within emotional and physical intimacy

• Takes care of self physically, mentally, and emotionally. Has at least one physical activity they enjoy regularly, for me that's climbing.

• We can initiate and accommodate each other's requests for compromises in the relationship - we can find a middle to meet on that seems reasonable to both of us.

• Already committed to self-growth on how he wants to show up as a partner and communicates specifics on the relationship he wants to build mutually towards. For example counselling, reading up on or listening relationship-oriented content, being in a relevant support group, journalling on the relationship he wants to build, etc.

Other preferences: Nice hair, self-reflective and self-aware, clean-shaven or short, well-trimmed beard.

I respond to messages that reflect the vibe I'm looking for and provide the below in the first message:

1. Include your basics (age, ethnicity, physique, relationship values and intentions, interests, etc.) and complete references to my non-negotiables.

2. What's a conversation you'd like have more often with people in your community?

Looking forward to connecting with someone who writes a relevant introduction, provide a SFW face and full-body photo within a week or so of talking, and is ready for a virtual vibe-check.