I'm looking to meet a local and open-minded man to be a trustworthy and responsible kink friend. Someone who also wants to discuss learnings from BDSM workshops or ideas brought up elsewhere with respect to consent and safe, comfortable play. Someone who puts me at ease on intentionally establishing a solid channel of open and appropriate communication for repair during disagreements at any time.

Potentially gradually down the road, given enough mutual interest and comfort, that friend may also be a play partner to explore mutually shared kinks. I'm only interested when I'm comfortable he can respond compassionately if something's not working in-scene or in friendship for either side and has a desire to work things out with me where reasonable.

My requirements are that this someone:

• Wants to build a solid friendship with me based on tenets of respecting each other's comfort levels, appropriate emotional honesty and consistently asking for permission and honoring responses on anything outside of the bounds of a regular vanilla friend

• Is someone I can see myself wanting to explore physical intimacy with - clean of STDs, drugs, basic hygiene, etc. Cigarettes are a hard no, for weed I don't want to be able to smell it on someone.

• Must be completely single. Respects my hard limits: NO married, involved, significant other/"complicated", poly, or a LDR, breadcrumbing or people who clearly didn't understand this.

• Shows genuine interest in building a friendship first with me on a shared interest in kink exploration and attending local kink events, pointing out awesome outfit/gear while shopping, cool resources, etc. while also getting to know each other as people.

• Enjoys talking things out with me and gauging our mutual comfort levels throughout the course of the friendship

• Lean or slim, preferably in a sexy professor sort of waay

• Between 28-43 (DILF vibe a plus) and willing to exchange face/dressed photos privately and no sending/requesting NSFW pics ever.

• Is clear that we're vetting each other as friends with a shared interest around learning more about responsibility in kink exploration first and foremost (yes I'm repeating it three times)

Kink-wise

• Shares compatible kinks of roleplay, soft power exchange, outfits, spanking to start

• Aligns as a switch or submissive: I'd mostly like to dominate men and only occasionally the reverse dynamic (he's a service-top vibe) under certain circumstances

Play-wise

• Understands how to maintain ongoing consent pre/during/post scene, collaboratively negotiate on scenes and regularly check-in where needed and establish safety word protocols

• Is okay with an inexperienced partner/eager learner to see what works for both of us

• Prioritizes our respective safety and comfort first as will I

• Understands that any pressuring of either partner for unsafe sex will end the arrangement immediately.

• Sufficient in-person schedule availability on an ongoing basis when it comes to a play arrangement

• Has integrity and keeps details under wraps regarding the arrangement to anyone else

Preference: Enjoys improv or acting for roleplay. I don't need my partner to be good at it or talented, but I do want him to enjoy us getting into the roles.

I usually skip <1 year old or low-karma accounts with no history unless your intro is absolutely relevant in full. Please don't expect me to give you my specifics on roleplay in your intro DM, but feel free to share your roleplay scenes if you want.

Only considering comprehensive intros/first impressions that address my requireds from people who also want a friendship with similar values. SFW photos are optional upfront though preferred.