Looking to date someone single, DDF/non-smoker of any substances to build a monogamous relationship balanced with relational intimacy and kink exploration/roleplay.

Seeking a committed relationship and I am not into any kind of ENM.

About me: In the vanilla space, my hobbies range from webnovels and webtoons to climbing and enjoying the scenery, reading up on emotions and connecting with people. Weekends: at the park/getting fresh air, at a cafe, or cozying up to a book with tea. Travel-wise: stay-cations with the occasional month-long annual vacation elsewhere. I strive for and appreciate a balance of curiosity, light-heartedness and thoughtfulness. My intention is to co-create emotional trust with someone I vibe with such that we can appreciate our differences as a team and work towards repair when relational ruptures happen.

East Asian, 5'4", single, physically slim. Switch with high physical affection needs/libido. Seeking someone similar who loves to give oral/sex-toy positive. Someone intending to co-create an intimate and connected relationship forged through each time we show up for potentially hard yet human conversations. Someone who enjoys silly, dirty-minded moods and long, reflective conversations with me in the quiet nights. Someone who I can mutually navigate conflict and repair with and be around comfortably. We practice tuning into when our stuff comes up during conflict with check-ins as appropriate.

What I’m seeking (SFW):

Mutual emotional and non-sexual physical intimacy are fundamental to the relationship as is compatible kink energy. It’s important we feel comfortable with each other to foster trust and increased capacity for progressive vulnerability.

I prefer to get to know people virtually first to rule out mutual dealbreakers and connect more on a SFW compatibility basis before anything else. I move slow when getting to know someone and a sense of how we show up for each other.

What I’m seeking (NSFW):

The kink-positive dynamics I'm seeking from both sides, include: seductive roleplay, light restraints/impact play, begging and orgasm control, outfits, soft power dynamic roleplay and more. Lazy Sundays cuddling and feeling the comfort of my partner's body against mine. We are both clear on what we want to try or what we enjoy and can be comfortable expressing our limits in a judgement-free zone.

Please be between the ages of 26-40 and be slim to lean, and have a comment/post history. No throwaway accounts or anyone who already disrespects my boundaries stated here, including my non-negotiables.

Basic non-negotiable requireds:

• Also similar in terms of: local, single and childfree, DDF willing to be fully tested before any intimacy, non-smoker of any substances

• Shares compatible and clear intentions around a monogamous, long-term relationship

• Willingness to repair around relational ruptures/conflict. Understands that I am also learning and growing alongside them

• Wanting to explore compatible kinks within the values of safety, comfort and negotiation of calibration of touch

• Between the ages of 26-40

• Slim to lean body type

• Also gainfully employed as am I

• Able to make time to be intentionally present for quality in-person time together 2-3 times a week consistently. I'd like to spend a decent portion of that time on kink exploration with my partner.

• Willing to initiate or participate in potentially uncomfortable conversations around either person's needs

• Comfortable navigating mutual consent and what they are into or need within emotional and physical intimacy, kinks and limits.

Other preferences: Clean-shaven or relatively short and tidy beard. Only responding to someone who is looking to explore kink and cultivate emotional intimacy in a relationship, and willing to provide the below in his first message:

1. Similar details as to what I've mentioned above for myself (age, physique, kink interests/switch preference etc.) and concise references to my non-negotiables

2. What you’re working on as it relates to a relationship, what your needs are for your own sense of engagement in building one, and what kind of effort you're willing to put into meeting the needs I’ve expressed here.

Thoughtful and relevant intros welcome. I'd appreciate a SFW face and full body photo within a week of connecting after which we decide if we want to do a virtual call to meet up. The picture is to gauge baseline visual attraction but intention, values and conduct determine the rest.

I'm drawn to men willing to write a thorough, relevant introduction and then connecting with the intention to meet after a concise mutual virtual vibe-check.