Looking to date someone single and monogamous, DDF/non-smoker of any substances to build a relationship balanced with emotional intimacy and kink exploration/roleplay.

Seeking a committed relationship and I am not into any kind of ENM.

In the vanilla space, my hobbies range from webnovels and webtoons to climbing and enjoying the scenery, reading up on emotions and connecting with people. Weekends are spent at the park/getting fresh air and/or gym, at a cafe, or cozying up to a book with tea. Travel-wise, I go for stay-cations with the occasional, month-long, annual or bi-annual vacation elsewhere. I strive for and appreciate a balance of curiosity, light-heartedness and thoughtfulness. My intention is to cultivate emotional trust with someone I vibe with such that we navigate our differences as a team and work towards repair when relational ruptures happen. I'd like to co-create a culture of emotional connection and appreciation for each other's efforts.

Mutual emotional and non-sexual physical intimacy are fundamental to the relationship as is compatible kink energy. The ongoing amount of care and consideration from both sides determines the sustainability of the relationship. It’s incredibly important we feel comfortable with each other because that is how trust and increased capacity for progressive vulnerability happens. A connection where each partner is willing to try expressing and receiving emotions from the other from an aligned place is key for relational intimacy and kink exploration.

I prefer to get to know people virtually first to rule out mutual dealbreakers and connect more on a SFW compatibility basis before anything else. I move slow when getting to know people and and a sense of how we show up for each other. This means that regardless of when sex happens, we take it interaction by interaction on whether we're open to meeting again with the idea of building a relationship.

The kink-positive dynamics I'd be looking at incorporating, from both sides, include seductive roleplay, light restraints/impact play, begging and orgasm control after negotiating on scenes. I enjoy outfits, soft power dynamic roleplay and more. Lazy sundays cuddling, cuddle-fucking and feeling the comfort of my partner's body against mine. Him helping me practice some wrist restraints for scenes. Practicing tuning into when our stuff comes up during conflict with check-ins as appropriate. We are both clear on what we want to try or what we enjoy and can be comfortable expressing our limits in a judgement-free zone.

About me: East Asian, 5'4", single, physically slim. Switch with high physical affection needs/libido seeking someone similar who loves to give oral/sex-toy positive. Someone intending to co-create an intimate and connected relationship forged through each time we show up for potentially hard yet human conversations. Someone who enjoys silly, dirty-minded moods and long, reflective conversations with me in the quiet nights. Someone who respects me as an equal and who I can mutually navigate conflict and repair with and be around comfortably.

Please be between the ages of 26-40 and be slim to lean, and have a comment/post history. No throwaway accounts or anyone who already disrespects my boundaries stated here, including my non-negotiables.

Basic non-negotiable requireds:

• Also similar in terms of: local, single and childfree, DDF willing to be fully tested before any intimacy, non-smoker of any substances
• Shares compatible and clear intentions around a relationship, values and conduct
• Willingness to repair around relational ruptures/conflict. Understands that I am also learning and growing alongside them
• Wanting to explore compatible kinks within the values of safety and comfort and negotiation of calibration of touch
• Between the ages of 26-40
• Slim to lean body type
• Also gainfully employed as am I
• Able to make time to be intentionally present for quality in-person time together 2-3 times a week consistently. I'd like to spend a decent portion of that time on kink exploration with my partner.
• Willing to initiate or participate in potentially uncomfortable conversations around either person's needs with respectful authenticity
• Comfortable sharing their understanding of consent and what they are into or need within emotional and physical intimacy, kinks and limits.
• Practices personal responsibility, consideration for their partner's boundaries and self-awareness of their emotional state and growth areas

Other preferences: Clean-shaven or relatively short and tidy beard.

Only responding to someone who is looking to explore kink and cultivate emotional intimacy in a relationship, and willing to provide the below in his first message:

1. Similar details as to what I've mentioned above for myself (age, kink interests/switch preference etc.) and concise references to my non-negotiables

2. What you’re working on as it relates to a relationship, what your needs are for your own sense of engagement in building one, and what kind of effort you're willing to put into meeting the needs I’ve expressed here.

Thoughtful and relevant intros welcome. I'd appreciate a SFW face and full body photo within a week of connecting after which we decide if we want to do a virtual call to meet up. The picture is to gauge baseline visual attraction but intention, values and conduct determine the rest.

I'm drawn to men who enjoy writing a thorough, relevant introduction and then connecting with the intention to meet after a concise mutual virtual vibe-check.