I'm looking to meet a local and open-minded man to be a trustworthy and responsible kink friend and play partner to explore compatible kinks with. My requirements are that this someone:

• Is someone I can see myself wanting to explore physical intimacy with - clean of STDs, drugs, basic hygiene, etc. Cigarettes are a hard no, for weed I don't want to be able to smell it on someone.

• Must be completely single and up for an ongoing arrangement.

• Respects my hard limits: NO married, involved, significant other/"complicated", poly, or a LDR, breadcrumbing or people who clearly didn't understand this.

• Has genuine interest in building a friendship with me on shared interest in kink exploration and attending local kink events

• Ok with oral only for "penetrative" acts early on in a play arrangement and sanitized toys for all else

• Lean or slim, preferably in a sexy professor sort of waay

• Understands how to maintain ongoing consent pre/during/post scene, collaboratively negotiate on scenes and regularly check-in where needed and establish safety word protocols

• Shares compatible kinks of roleplay, soft power exchange, outfits, spanking to start

• Aligns as a switch or submissive: I'm mostly into dominating men and only occasionally the reverse dynamic under certain circumstances

• Is okay with an inexperienced partner/eager learner to see what works for both of us

• Puts me at ease regarding his willingness to work with me through restitution/repair when interpersonal disagreements and differences come up in the friendship or play arrangement

• Prioritizes his and my own safety and comfort first as will I

• Understands that any pressuring of either partner for unsafe sex will end the arragement immediately.

• Sufficient in-person schedule availability on an ongoing basis when it comes to a play arrangement

• Between 28-43 (DILF vibe a plus) and willing to exchange face/dressed photos privately and no sending/requesting NSFW pics ever.

• Has integrity and keeps details under wraps regarding the arrangement to anyone else

• Willing to meet up for coffee and spend in-person time to get to know each other as friends first

• Intentionally works with me on building a solid channel of open and appropriate communication necessary for the comfort and safety of potentially playing together. I want to be confident he can respond compassionately if something's not working in-scene or in friendship for either side and has a desire to work things out with me where reasonable.

Preference: Enjoys improv or acting for roleplay. I don't need my partner to be good at it or talented, but I do want him to enjoy us getting into the roles.

How would I go about finding this person in the Lower Mainland? I am already on Fetlife. Tips appreciated, please DM advice.

For personal non-advice DMs: I usually skip low-karma accounts with no history - red flag flakes in my experience unless your intro is absolutely amazing. Please don't expect me to give you my specifics on roleplay in your intro DM, but feel free to share your roleplay scenes if you want. Meaningful intros that address my requireds with photos preferred.