Looking to date someone single and monogamous, DDF/non-smoker of any substances to build a relationship balanced with emotional intimacy and light kink exploration/roleplay.

Seeking a committed relationship and I am not into any kind of ENM.

In the vanilla space, my hobbies range from webnovels and webtoons to climbing and enjoying the scenery, reading up on emotions and connecting with people. Weekends are spent at the park/getting fresh air and/or gym, at a cafe, or cozying up to a book with tea. Travel-wise, I go for stay-cations with the occasional, month-long, annual or bi-annual vacation elsewhere. I strive for and appreciate a balance of curiosity, light-heartedness and thoughtfulness. My intention is to cultivate emotional trust with someone I vibe with such that we navigate our differences as a team and work towards repair when relational ruptures happen. I'd like to co-create a culture of emotional connection and appreciation for each other's efforts.

Mutual emotional and non-sexual physical intimacy are fundamental to the relationship as is compatible kink energy. The ongoing amount of care and consideration from both sides determines the sustainability of the relationship. It’s incredibly important we feel comfortable with each other because that is how trust and increased capacity for progressive vulnerability happens. A connection where each partner is willing to try expressing and receiving emotions from the other from an aligned place is key for relational intimacy and kink exploration.

I prefer to get to know people virtually first to rule out mutual dealbreakers and connect more on a SFW compatibility basis before anything else. I move slow when getting to know people and and a sense of how we show up for each other. This means that regardless of when sex happens, we take it interaction by interaction on whether we're open to meeting again with the idea of building a relationship.

The kink-positive dynamics I'd be looking at incorporating, from both sides, include roleplay seduction, light partial restraints, begging and orgasm control. I enjoy outfits, soft power dynamic roleplay and more. Lazy sundays cuddling, cuddle-fucking and feeling the comfort of my partner's body against mine. Practicing tuning into when our stuff comes up during conflict with check-ins as appropriate. We are both clear on what we want to try or what we enjoy and can be comfortable expressing our limits in a judgement-free zone.

About me: East Asian, 5'4", single, physically slim. Switch with high physical affection needs/libido seeking someone similar who loves to give oral/sex-toy positive. Spank my ass and call me pretty and I'll do the same for you. Someone intending to co-create an intimate and connected relationship forged each time we show up for potentially hard yet human conversations. Someone who enjoys silly, dirty-minded moods and long, serious, thoughtful conversations with me in the quiet nights. Someone who respects me as an equal and who I can mutually navigate conflict and repair with and be around comfortably.

Please be between the ages of 26-40 and be slim to lean, and have a comment/post history. No throwaway accounts or anyone who already disrespects my boundaries stated here, including my non-negotiables.

Basic non-negotiable requireds:

• Also similar in terms of: local, single and childfree, DDF willing to be fully tested before any intimacy, non-smoker of any substances
• Shares compatible and clear intentions around a relationship, values and conduct
• Willingness to repair around relational ruptures/conflict. Understands that I am also learning and growing alongside them
• Strives to be thoughtful, emotionally flexible and understands that safety and comfort is paramount for mutual play.
• Between the ages of 26-40
• Slim to lean body type
• Also gainfully employed as am I
• Able to make time to be intentionally present for quality time together 2-3 times a week consistently. I mainly build emotional and physical connection through in-person time and physical intimacy.
• Willing to initiate or participate in potentially uncomfortable conversations around either person's needs with respectful authenticity
• Comfortable sharing their understanding of consent and what they are into or need within emotional and physical intimacy.
• Practices personal responsibility, consideration for their partner's boundaries and self-awareness of their emotional state and growth areas

Other preferences: Clean-shaven or relatively short and tidy beard.

Only responding to those who show clear interest in getting to know each other in their first message - I get along better with men who are willing to follow instructions out of respect for me, which I do my best to reciprocate:

1. some basic general details about yourself like what I've mentioned above for myself and concise references to my non-negotiables

2. What you’re working on as it relates to a relationship, what your needs are for your own sense of engagement in building one, and what kind of effort you're willing to put into meeting the needs I’ve expressed here.

Thoughtful and relevant intros welcome. I'd appreciate a SFW face and full body photo within a week of connecting after which we decide if we want to do a virtual call to meet up. The picture is to gauge baseline visual attraction but intention, values and conduct determine the rest.