Looking to date someone single and monogamous, DDF/non-smoker of any substances who also is up to build a relationship balanced with emotional intimacy and light kink exploration/roleplay.

Please note that I am looking to date in the direction of a committed relationship and my preference here is within the context of that. I am not into any kind of ENM.

In the vanilla space, my hobbies range from webnovels and webtoons to climbing and enjoying the scenery, reading up on emotions and connecting with people. Weekends are spent at the park/getting fresh air and/or gym, at a cafe, or cozying up to a book with tea. I strive for and appreciate a balance of curiosity, light-heartedness and thoughtfulness. My intention is to cultivate emotional trust with someone I vibe with such that we navigate our differences as a team and work towards repair when relational ruptures happen. I'd like to share compatible affection that fulfill each other and appreciation for each other's efforts. Intentions, values and conduct matter to me.

Mutual emotional and non-sexual physical intimacy are what I require in building and growing a relationship. The ongoing amount of care and consideration from both sides determines the sustainability of the relationship. It’s incredibly important to me that I feel comfortable enough with my partner and vice versa because that is how trust and increased capacity for progressive vulnerability and relational intimacy happens. What I’m looking for is a connection where each partner is willing to try expressing and receiving emotions from the other from an aligned place. That's foundational for relational intimacy and kink exploration to me.

A partner who is thoughtful, interpersonally flexible, and respects the core concept and intent around consent regardless of the situation. Someone I can connect with and someone who understands that safety and comfort is paramount. I prefer to get to know people virtually first to rule out mutual dealbreakers and connect more on a SFW compatibility basis before anything else. I move slow when getting to know people on a basis of mutual respect. This means that regardless of when sex happens, we take it interaction by interaction on whether we're open to meeting again with the idea of building a relationship.

The kink-positive dynamics I'd be looking at incorporating, from both sides, include roleplay seduction, light partial restraints, begging and orgasm control. I enjoy outfits and soft power dynamic roleplay. Lazy sundays cuddling, cuddle-fucking and feeling the comfort of my partner's body against mine. Practicing relational immediacy with check-ins as appropriate. We are both clear on what we want to try or what we enjoy and can be comfortable expressing our limits in a judgement-free zone.

About me: East Asian, 5'4", single, physically slim, high degree of physical affection needs. Switch seeking similar for emotionally sustainable and compatible kink-positive relationship. My preferences lean towards someone who loves to give oral/sex-toy positive, shares similar values relationally and intimacy-wise, and is open-minded and self-aware. Someone who enjoys my silly moods and on the train ride whisper in my ear the naughty things he'd do to me if no one else were around. Someone I can have long, thoughtful conversations with in the quiet nights. Someone who respects me as an equal and who I can mutually navigate conflict and repair with and be around comfortably. Trust and respect for each other are paramount.

Please be between the ages of 26-40 and be slim to lean, and have a comment/post history. No throwaway accounts or anyone who already disrespects my boundaries stated here, including my non-negotiables.

Basic non-negotiable requireds:

• Also similar in terms of: local, single and childfree, DDF willing to be fully tested before any intimacy, non-smoker of any substances
• Shares compatible and clear intentions around a relationship, values and conduct
• Willingness to repair around relational ruptures/conflict. Understands that I am also learning and growing alongside them
• Compatible energy in communicating and connecting
• Balances considerate curiosity, playfulness and thoughtfulness
• Between the ages of 26-40
• Slim to lean body type
• Understands and respects discretion and confidentiality especially in early stages - no NSFW photos at all
• Also gainfully employed as am I
• Able to make time to be intentionally present for quality time together 2-3 times a week consistently. I mainly build emotional and physical connection through in-person time.
• Willing to initiate or participate in potentially uncomfortable conversations around either person's needs with respectful authenticity
• Understands that consent can be withdrawn at any time by either party for any reason and must be informed at all times
• Practices personal responsibility, consideration for their partner's boundaries and self-awareness of their emotional state and growth areas

Other preferences: Clean-shaven or relatively short and tidy beard.

Only responding to those who show clear interest in getting to know each other in their first message - I get along better with men who are willing to follow instructions out of respect for me, which I do my best to reciprocate:

1. some basic general details about yourself like what I've mentioned above for myself, including your age, relationship status, understanding of consent; and concise references to my non-negotiables

2. What you’re working on as it relates to a relationship, what your needs are for your own sense of engagement in building one, and what kind of effort you’re willing to put into meeting the needs I’ve expressed here.

Thoughtful and relevant intros welcome. I'd appreciate a SFW face and upper half body photo within two weeks after which we decide if we want to do a virtual call to meet up. The picture is to gauge baseline visual attraction but intention, values and conduct determine the rest.