I’ve been worried that I am falling behind in the whole mid-life crisis area.

I mean, so many of my friends are out getting a divorce, trying to learn to ride a motorcycle, and making very questionable clothing choices. My problem is that I am actually pretty happy – at work and at home (sort of) - but my partner and I have been growing apart intimately. I have a rewarding career for doing something I enjoy. Yet, being in a dead bedroom with someone who has lost their sexual appetite and is stubborn to fix it has put a damper on life.

If I still have your attention, then I will give you the rest of the basic introduction. I am a professional living and working in Vancouver. I’m friendly, easy to be around, and open to the delight that comes in meeting new and different people. Emotionally, I’m distressingly stable and unconflicted – to the point that I have to fake a crisis from time to time, so people don’t think me uninteresting. (shhh, don’t tell).

Given this, it really exemplifies my unwillingness to change my current situation. There's a lot of good going on, and let's just add more 'good goin's' to our lives.

Sexually, I have a wide range of appetites, with a taste for exploration. I tend to be naturally dominant, though I prefer sensuality over a "porn star" experience. Kink-friendly, with experience, and willing to explore more with the right partner.

As long as I need to fit in a mid-life crisis, I think a making love with a woman beats out a motorcycle any day.

You should be 25 or above… below or near 38

You should rank orgasm, especially the sweaty, claw the sheets, oh god do that again variety – as being pretty high up there on your list of life requirements.

You should enjoy your hobbies, or the theater, or camping – and should understand that we likely won’t do any of those things because they would require us to get out from between the sheets together (think Netflix) . Although, given we're discreet, it'd be nice to have an outing from time to time - even a simple walk.

You should have family, friends, a job, or a hobby that is important to you- and be determined to keep that part of your life private, as I will.

You should like to talk, both in and out of the bed.

You should be someone who holds back on making immediate judgements but enjoys also expressing their own thoughts.

You should believe that making love with someone new that you like a lot is one of life’s great pleasures, but that making love with them for the twentieth time should be even better.

You should value a genuine connection and chemistry as Im not looking for a one time thing.

I’m pretty certain you shouldn’t be any of my partner's friends. While that would add a certain element of danger and therefore excitement, I would hate to see my perfectly good mid-life crisis suddenly turn into an end-of-life crisis.

To learn more about me and if you're local to Vancouver/Westcoast, come shoot me a chat.