Seeking a local, monogamous LTR with someone single, DDF/non-smoker of any substances who is an submissive or switch-leaning-submissive also into roleplay.

Please note that I am looking to date my partner in a committed relationship and my preference here is within the context of that. I am not into any kind of ENM.

I'm looking for a LTR partner who is thoughtful, patient, and respects the Safe, Sane and Consensual protocol or a newer version of it as much as I do even if they've never done a scene. New to soft domination before but have always wanted to try it with someone who is also learning, as it feels reassuring to navigate through this new side of myself at similar levels. That said, as long as my partner is someone I can connect with and someone who understands that safety is paramount, experience level matters less. If you have an idealized version of what a domme should look like or act like or don't want to put effort into keeping a connection going, I am not the person for you.

Ideally this LTR partner/SO is also new to exploring BDSM and very into roleplay as I'd enjoy mostly vanilla play with kinky dnyamics and a soft femdom flavor.

In the vanilla space, my hobbies range from books to climbing and enjoying the scenery. I am someone who wants to lift my partner up and receive that affection in equal return. I want my partner to let me know how they enjoy physical affection and I do my best to fulfill that. I have no desire to cause pain for pain's sake, and only at a level that is both comfortable to me and my partner. The domination I'd be looking at would be more inherent to the dynamic of seduction, begging and orgasm control. I enjoy the idea of wearing outfits and soft power dynamic roleplay. Older man/younger woman role reversals is probably one of my favorites. I'm also curious about exploring pegging and at the same time, would be completely happy without it in my relationship if it's a limit for my partner. My partner can engage in as many or as few of my interests as he likes as long as we're on the same page about how we want to explore this side of ourselves.

I'd like to also have aftercare where we cuddle and I run my fingers through his hair and share how we feel after each session. Or even better, during, as immediacy is a turn-on. We are both clear on what we want to try or what we enjoy and can be comfortable expressing our limits in a judgement-free zone.

About me: I'm East Asian, 5'4" and physically average. My preferences lean towards someone who loves to give oral and someone of a similar ethnicity (EA or SEA), Caucasian, or Hispanic/Latino. Most importantly, someone who values communication similarly and who I can communicate with comfortably.

Please be between the ages of 26-40 and be average to fit, and have a comment/post history. I prefer older who give off a 'Dad' vibe, but most important is having compatible communication and energy. No throwaway accounts or anyone who already disrespects my boundaries stated here, including my non-negotiables.

Basic non-negotiable requireds:

• Also local and childfree, DDF/non-smoker of any substances
• Active in a relationship and connection, not passively waiting to maintain ongoing communication
• Expresses what he likes and doesn't like in the moment during sex and in life - aka immediacy in communication
• Also seeking a monogamous LTR and making it clear in their intro
• Understands and respects discretion and confidentiality especially in early stages - no NSFW photos at all or photos of other parties
• Also drives and gainfully employed as am I
• Willing to get tested for a full STI panel before any physical intimacy
• Similarly low body count under 5 preferred.
• Works no more than 50 hours a week and consistently makes time for in-person quality time together
• Into roleplay, ideally as much as I am
• Willing to share his attachment style
• Observes some version of SSC protocol, preferably one that highlights that consent can be withdrawn at any time by either party for any reason and must be informed at all times
• Exhibits at least one, and ideally all of the following: considerate of social cues and TPO, takes personal responsibility for own choices in the past and present, self-aware of how their emotional state may be affected by their past life experiences
• Equally has both my and their own best interests at heart, even if that means we're better off as kink friends.

Only responding to serious and thoughtful intros that contain all of:

1) some basic general details about yourself like what I've mentioned above for myself, including your age, relationship and ddf status, understanding of consent; and

2) your fondness for roleplaying and your thoughtful reflection on what I've shared that matches the energy of my post.

I would like it eventually if you were willing to exchange a SFW face and upper half body photo as a prelude to discussing meeting up. The picture is to gauge baseline visual attraction but as someone with a love for the written word, thoughtful communication is what draws me in.