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I feel pressured by my husband to fast track the fix to my vaginismus. I feel like I cannot have a romantic partner who will support me the way I need to be supported.
My husband will often vent about his feelings on how he needs to have piv and he can’t be married to me if I can’t give him that. I’m starting to accept that it won’t last. He never had piv before (we did have painful piv twice but for a short time and no orgasm so it doesn’t count for him).
Are there people with vaginismus who have good partners who stood by them? Any positive stories about good partners would make me feel better and give me some hope for my future.
I'm so sorry that you've been going through this, especially without any real support from your partner.
I was convinced the same- that I would never have a good relationship, that men would get tired of waiting for me to work on my issues and leave, all the general worries. But I found an absolute sweetheart who I was up-front with from the very beginning. (I feel bad for him, because the only thing that really gets him off is piv)
We've been together for exactly 13 months today, and he never pressures me. Every now and then, he'll gently ask me how my PT has been going lately and if I want to talk about my progress, but that's it.
I knew he was a keeper when I explained what exactly dilator training is, and he responded by saying that it sounded scary and that he was so unbelievably proud of me for having the strength to go through this.
I promise, promise, promise you that good partners are out there. A good partner would understand and work with you, not make you feel like shit for something that's been out of your control for who knows how long.
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