I have no stats to back it up but I would say a large percentage of people are rubbish at sex. 70 percent? 80? more? No one really knows how good they are because its very rare that the person you slept with will give you a score.

Even if they said you were sht you can easily dismiss it as them being spiteful for some reason. Also sex is a weird activity where you can have a great time with someone even if they are rubbish. Just the fact you are naked together is awesome. But most people get no education in what to do. They have no idea. They just do it and hope they are doing it well. Or pick up some tips from porn.

Men still think jumping on a pumping away is all she needs and women think lying there legs open is all men need. Yeah its getting more and more open and men will try some warms ups etc but still they dont know what they are doing because they never learned. Every other activity you do you will know if you are rubbish at it by the feedback you get. And every other activity you can get someone to show you how to do it. This is also the problem with people who have one partner or just two and then spend the rest of their lives in marriage. Its awesome. I get it. But you have doomed yourself to sht sex for 20, 30, 40 years. And then live in denial saying its great because you cant say otherwise and even if you did you have no way to get your partner to improve.

You dont want a frigid virgin. You want a sexually liberated partner.

Update 1- Think point is proven by first few posts. Communication is good and reading the sex articles in womans magazines are great but that does not make you good in bed. If you to be good at anything. You start young. You go to classes. You learn from loads of different people. You practice. Practice. Practice. They say 10,000 hours to master anything. Obviously you cant start sex when you are young. But most people get to 18. have 5/10 partners. Have a few discussions and now think they are good in bed. How? Yes you get a little better and maybe a lot of people are okish. But Im talking about a higher standard.

Update 2 - This isnt about me. Im not 18 and bitter that I just had sex and finished too early. I have no hang ups about sex. None. I am just saying there is a weird view in the world where no one can admit - 'Hey Im not that great at sex.' And as a society we never think. Hey we should improve our education about sex outside the 'dont get pregnant speeches' you get in school and the few articles from Sex Therapist Suzan in womans magazines.