Tldr; you have to look at yourself first. If you aren't already everything then how can you expect someone else to be?

No two people can be everything for each other. Shit is impossible. It's why this generation is driving itself into the ground. They're looking for relationships and "the feeling" of being in love as an easy out.

There's a point it appears that love is a hard drug to them and not in the flighty over romantic sense. I mean no different from heroin or meth. The feeling becomes a distraction from their existing problems. The continually dive into it looking for something similar to that first high.

Over time they begin to realize that their problems are still problems despite those feelings.. but instead of looking within they blame it on the "current state of things", "Hook up culture", men, etc.

Not understanding that often negative feelings are our body's way of telling us something about us and the way we're living needs to change.

Now I understand that being in a healthy relationship can help you change for the better. But you still have to be the catalyst for that change. You can't go into something subconsciously expecting your partner to fix you.

I swear all of these sing songy overly romantic Instagram posts make my stomach turn.