I’m 30 years old, socially transitioned as a teen & medically transitioned at 21 with several gender affirming surgeries. I don't have the privilege of being naturally stealth. It's taken me personally 9 years of painful gender affirming surgeries & healing to assimilate into society & have people approach me in public, in person. If they ask for my number, I'll tell them in text. Why? Because I don't want to be with someone who doesn't find ALL of me attractive. I am proud of my transition & I'm not hiding it. It also takes out the risk of violence for "tricking" someone. Also, if they decide they don't want to pursue after disclosing, it plants a seed that we are out here under your nose the whole time. Rethink whatever you've learned a trans person looks or sounds like, because you found me attractive. I don’t look or sound like a “man”. I have small feet, small hands. I’m short at 5’6. I think any trans person that chooses to be stealth & hide their gender identity is self hating, & really doing themselves & the trans population a disservice.