Someone asked me what my ‘ideal Dom’ looked like, and I think this is it. I’m sure if I really tried I could come up with more. I don’t think I’ll find everything all in one, but I figured it’s worth a shot to be specific and put it all out there in case someone lines up with more than a few.

My ideal dom would be someone who’s kind and caring outside the bedroom, someone who has a vested interest in me and my life and my wellbeing and shows it.

Someone who dotes and praises and cares, but can and will be stern and hold me accountable if and when needed.

Someone who wants to see me achieve my goals (whether they be health and wellness related or otherwise) and is willing to help me and be there with me through the struggles that come with that.

Someone who isn’t afraid to pull me aside and remind me to be a good girl for Daddy when I start to brat too much, but won’t make a huge public display about it. That’s our secret.

Someone who carries through with his ‘threats,’ and does it well, but within both his and my limits and ever goes too far.

Someone who pushes my boundaries just enough to flex, who treats me like a toy to fuck when we’re in the bedroom.

Someone who remains fully committed to a scene until aftercare or a safeword is called.

Someone who’s a little possessive.

Someone who can commit to a roleplay scene.

Someone who knows that aftercare is always needed, even if one party thinks they’re okay without it.

Someone who will tell me to drink more water.

Someone who sets punishments and follows through, but also sets rewards.

Someone who reminds me it’s okay to want to be treated like a dumb whore sometimes, but that I’m so much more than that.

Someone who is as physically and mentally attracted to me as I am to them.

Someone who keeps me on my toes, and challenges me a little bit.

Someone who I can trust enough to have a free use 24/7 TPE relationship with.

Someone I can fully confide in without judgement.

Someone who has strong morals that line up with mine.

Someone who would ask me to vent to him about my day while he uses me.

Someone who takes out the frustrations of a hard day on me. The “you’re my toy. I’m rough on my toys because I know they can take it, but I always keep my toys well kept and cared for” type.

Someone who is looking for a long-term relationship style dynamic with one (or more depending on what happens) forever sub.