Over the past year of searching for someone to seduce my husband, I've had so many messages from interested ladies, getting some interest hasn't been too hard, but....

When it comes to the actual "let's meet, I'll buy you a drink" they'll either make excuses or just ghost completely, there's even been more than one occasion that they've accepted, we've agreed to a time and place, then they either pull out last minute or just not turn up.

I always verify myself, but sometimes I'm a bit lax on others verifying themselves, maybe it's on me then.

I'm not going to be turning up with my husband, I'm wanting to meet you myself first, in a public place, not just for your safety, but my own and my husband's (I don't want anyone to be in an unsafe situation).

I want to get to know these ladies before I trust them with my husband, I want to know their boundaries, what they like, what they don't and who they are, as much or as little as they feel comfortable sharing with me. I want to be at least friendly with them. That's part of what I like, I love the idea of a friend going behind my back with my husband.

I'm up front about this aspect, that they are under no obligation to even meet my husband after our get together, if they are no longer feeling it or are uncomfortable. The point of meeting me first is, there is no pressure, you're in control of the situation and you can either meet or not meet my husband another time in another public space.

I tell them this from the beginning, "if you are no longer feeling comfortable, or no longer want to try this arrangement, please tell me"

And instead they just ghost.

I am neurodivergent and sadly the ghosting leaves me feeling anxious and uneasy... I need closure, even if the closure is "no thank you, this isn't for me". There's no hard feelings if you no longer want to try this, I respect all decisions.

Please don't ghost. It's rude. We are all adults here, speak to me about your feelings. That's all I ask

Rant over.