Just an alien trying to figure out how to be human here.

Plus sized 35/F leaning NB. I am married and we are in a mono/poly relationship - it is healthy and functional, but we are not out in our country of Denmark and that's something a partner would need to respect. I currently have only my spouse/nesting partner/QPP. My ideal structure is one with only 2 (*maybe 3*) partners maximum, so I'd like someone who is willing to prioritize me (single or equally with other partners especially during NRE) to be the other arm.

Disclaimer: Because of cultural differences and personal attraction preferences, I am not interested in dating individuals from the Middle East, Africa or Asia.

I'm Demisexual, which may be the single most important thing about me. If the vibe and chemistry is not there or hasn't had enough time to establish, I am sex repulsed and will not respond positively to that kind of interaction, so I'd be looking to talk with someone I can form a friendship with and see the chemistry potential there for more. I would prefer someone like me who is more aroused by passionate conversation and flirting rather than what we could be doing to each other physically, especially since our relationship will be an LDR/Online-based relationship.

Currently working on building a live here in Europe with my husband, learning his weird native dialect and attempting to go to school to gain a career in the ways I can help human beings be better at being human beings (torn between teaching, medical and mathematical paths). I am AuDHD and can talk a storm up, sometimes saying the same thing 50 different ways to be sure my feelings are understood (sorry in advance if this ends up annoying you during arguments or fights)

It's been really hard, putting myself out there, getting my heart broken, people are weird creatures but I'm trying to be better at it, while also working to improve my independence and approach relationships just a little bit healthier every time. I'm about a year and a half - 2ish years into trying to make polyamory work for me, but I haven't met the right person/people yet to fulfill that.

Pleaseeee don't make me do all the engaging and small talk, I'm autistic, that kind of shit causes me stress.

I often struggle with feeling like an alien in the world because of my autism. This often leads to struggles with loneliness and doing tasks and understanding people incorrectly. I may ask for clarification or need validation at times. I hope to meet someone who is the same and respects that type of interaction.

Realistically, I want someone who can communicate consistently, has emotional availability and who willing to fight with me and for me, especially during the difficult times. Someone who is emotionally intelligent enough to communicate their feelings and talk our disagreements or arguments. Someone proactive and reliable, someone who can keep the majority of the plans we make, and ideally be able to overlap on some of my timezone here in Europe. Seems like I'm asking for the world these days.

Now for more positive, informational stuff about me:

I love video games and having a partner who games and wants to play together is a requirement for me. Bethesda holds my wallet (minus Mass Effect 4 and Fallout 76, they are the ugly children we don't talk about), but I have over 400 steam games and a VR headset so I'm sure we can find something to do.

Fascinated by culture, anthropology and art content, always interested to talk about more stuff. My brain is weirdly mathematical and logical but those topics often bore me. Bore? Board. Board games. Now thats a thing I can talk about. Pretty much always down to learn new games with people in TTS. DnD too! Roleplaying has got to be the sexiest thing on the planet with the right partner. Have you got enough charisma and imagination to conquer me on the battlefield? Roll for success ;)

Voice/video chat are CRITICAL for me (discord preferred), we should be able to check in with each other daily and make plans weekly. If you can't talk at least weekly over voice chat at home (since I like to watch movies, play games together, mutually existing at times, etc), please don't message me. Voices are important for me to connect at a relationship level, speaking of that -

Looking for someone who is open and proactive with talking about more than surface level interests and life experiences. I'm spiritual (I don't follow any specific practice) and believe everything that happens in my life has a purpose or reason, so ofc I have crystals and want to talk about auras and metaphysical things sometimes. You don't have to be into it, too, just being open minded and not making me feel like an idiot for it is appreciated.

I get migraines and have some other illnesses that mess with my energy levels physically and mentally so you may have to occasionally deal with me being in pain or having brain fog. It comes with the package. I've lived with it my whole life so it's just an average everyday thing for me, I just need someone who can understand that and be supportive during those less-than-optimal moments.

Please do not come at me with extremist political views. Isn't the world hard enough already? NO TERFS, NO SWERFS, NO DISRESPECTFUL VEGANS, NO EXTREMIST VIEWS ON POLICING INDIVIDUALS. Just let people be people, seriously why is it so hard? If you feel the need to discuss right wing politics or start arguments over it, I'm not your person. I love globalism and don't believe in right wing immigration politics or borders. I accept all people as people and all that encompasses, including gender, sexuality, race, diagnosed mental illnesses and undiagnosed ones caused by CPTSD and trauma. I have previously dated trans individuals of either gender alignment as well as nb's and all people are hot, deal with it ;)

That was a lot but I hope whoever is still here sees the value in reaching out to me. If you're interested, you can send me an intro below or in my DMs including points on what you feel you align with in this post (and some points where you don't, that would also be very useful). Once you send me a selfie, I'll send one (or several) back!

Beep-boop, nice to meet you, fellow earthling.