After having quite a lot of success meetings with Redditors for no-strings NSFW fun, I decided to write a few tips for success. PLEASE DO NOT DM me to clarify any of these tips; answer with a comment instead.

Tip #1: Read the post and think of the community she is posting her ad

Why is this so hard to do? If you can log on to the reddit app, you can read the post to completion. Is she posting in RAOMD? RAOBJ? Randoms Acts of Rimming? Whatever the community -- think before you answer. Do not answer a RAOMD if you just want a blowjob and do not answer a RAOBJ if you want something else.

Tip #2 : She is not interested in chatting.

She posted an ad to meet in person. Why are you asking her to sext?

Tip #3: Are you what she is looking for?

If she prefers a short, funny and witty Asian dude in his 20s why would you, a tall light-skinned Middle Eastern guy in his 40s, respond to the ad? You are just killing her inbox and fucking her chances of screening what she is looking for because you want to "shoot your shot." And speaking of shooting your shot...

Tip #4: Unless you tick MOST of her boxes, you will not tick her box OR Stop shooting your shot.

The "shooting your shot" must be one of the most hated phrases for women here. Stop shooting your shot. It is difficult for some Reddit women (whether cisgendered or trans) to come and seek NSFW fun online without being bombarded by thirsty men who are not seeking to please them. Stop. It is unlikely that she is going to "give you a chance" because 1. you are dying, 2. are a virgin, 3. are a dying virgin, 4. your mom thinks you're handsome, 5.other women think you are handsome, 6. other men think you are handsome, 7. you claim to have given 37 women 37 orgasms (in a row or in separate occasions), or 8. whatever you think is going to perk her interest.

I will emphasize "most" on "the most of her boxes" tip because there are instances where she is going to be open to negotiating some of her preferences. You might have 4 of 5 traits she is looking for on a sex buddy? I say go ahead and send her a message.

Tip #5: A lady wants her kink.

Some women post in r4rs because many of us have had shitty sex in the past or sex that was not ideal. We are requesting sex that will satisfy a need, a kink or a fantasy, or allows us to experience something we have not experienced before in our sexual lives. For example, I may post an ad for a specific experience because I saw a very sexy porn scene. And this is directly related to Tip #3, because some of us may be wishing to recreate what we saw in that particular scene. and we ask for particular things from a diver. My last two RAOMD requests were for a specific combination of traits because I felt like being dominated by someone who had similar hair color, length, and texture to porn start, Michael Vegas. I was very lucky that his picture showed that the diver I chose could fulfill that need.

Tip #6: Pictures, pictures, pictures.

Some women have a different need for visuals. I want to see your face. I want to imagine what your face will look like between my legs. I do not want to see your dick unless I ask for it. And your chest... well, some of us want to see that, but from the many ladies that I have talked to on Reddit, chest pics are a Grindr thing. Also, stop sending potato phone pictures or pictures that are obviously from 7 years ago.

Tip #7: This is her show, not yours.

My last post generated over 200 responses with at least 50 of them with pictures and well-written responses. Out of those 50, most of them ticked all my boxes. She is not going to go out of her way to talk to you because on Reddit, she has the advantage, not you. If you do not know how to post a pic on reddit, stop asking her to get to Snapchat so she can get it. This is like interviewing for a job and telling your interviewer you forgot to bring your resume but that they can go and look at your LinkedIn profile to figure out if you are the right fit for them. Furthermore, men tend to think of themselves better looking than they really are, so think before you answer someone's ad.

Tip #8: You are not special and your dick is not special.

Your mom may have told you (maybe while your arms were broken) that you are special. You might be special, but your dick, in some cases, is not. This tip is not only relevant when it comes to r/RAOMD posts, but other NSFW r4rs. When I post a RAOMD ad and you tell me that you are this many inches, then I will immediately stop reading. You telling me how your dick looks like (or sending me a pic) just shows me that you will not take care of my needs.

Tip #9: SUCCESS stories used to be a sign, but not anymore.

You were successful before? Awesome. You have been successful because you are most likely following some of the commonsense rules I outlined above. BUT... the upsurge of success stories means that some of these were not written by women who have been satisfied.

Tip #10: Hate the game, not the player.

And since this is her show, she has the advantage on the way the game is played. There are more men than women looking for NSFW fun and you really need to understand that you might not going get a response. You also need to realize that even if she is not younger, slimmer, or does not have whatever traits of conventional beauty are valued at that moment, she is not going to settle or bend over backwards to be with you. She has more options here.