Or rather, my general rules of engagement, as this is fairly universally applicable.

I truly hate to begin in such a negative tone, but from some of my personal experiences here, these are things that have to be delineated. Thanks in advanced for reading and honoring :)

So in no particular order, here are some things "I AM NOT...":

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1. Your fetish. My skin or my culture is not here for your pleasure or benefit without my consent, and not to be sexualized. I've attraction to a variety of phenotypes of women, but never simply because of her race or ethnicity. This should be a mutually agreeable idea. Otherwise, goodbye.

-https://dshorb.com/the-attraction-vs-a-fetish-13b22a253dca

-https://meloukhia.net/2013/09/things_that_shouldnt_need_to_be_said_racial_fetishes_edition/

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1. Your BBC, "spade", bull, etc. Pursuing me after my penis, it's size (joke's on you because it is delightfully average 😊), because of my skin, or any other dated & damaging trope about black men, is actual racism, whether you accept that or not. I do NOT CONSENT to race-based shenanigans. 'Race-play' and it's sub-genres like these are NOT KINKS, and merely serve to reduce my entire HUMAN value to a mere body part.

-CO-VIDs: the semiotics of "cuck". by Ian Danskin, a YouTube video uploaded Aug. 31, 2020, to the Innuendo Studios channel. (Danskin devotes most of this 18-minute video to discussing the conservative right's view of polyamory vs. monogamy. However, he begins and closes by homing in on the connection between White supremacy and cuckholding/bull "fetishes".)

-https://fetlife.com/users/13333214/posts/8728323

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1. Your Dom (or 'dom'), real or perceived. Plenty of both literally everywhere else; on Reddit, FetLife or elsewhere, masquerading as "alpha" types in real life. This point is primarily for those women who liked to jump in my inbox asking about my Dom status. I've not had any experience within that role, nor (currently) a particularly high interest D/s dynamics, so I don't intend to waste your time unless the chemistry is there, and you're willing to be patience & help me learn. That said, as I spend time in kink, I am further understanding the desire and utility of such dynamics, so it's not totally off the table under the right conditions, so we can discuss it.

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1. The addition (or savior thereof) to your relationship or bedroom. Swinging is not currently a high interest of mine. While I am open and exploring/learning about my curiosity in Polyamory and/or ENM (and whether or not they are a match for me), I am not doing so for purely sexual reasons or to satiate someone else's selfish proclivities. I do feel that I would like to have a primary(in some capacity) romantic partner however. So until that becomes an option for me, I (probably?) can't be an option for you and yours. In any potential arrangements however, White couples/dynamics will face additional scrutiny, for my own well-being and safety.

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1. Currently interested in exploring with anyone other than cis-women. Live your life, but for public & private lifestyle purposes; I'm a cis-hetero male who is into cis-woman only. I'm otherwise happily open to connecting with other genders & sexualities as friends only, and I presently lack a significant desire for any group play.

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1. Exchanging or paying for ANYTHING. Nothing you offer here is worth my money, and there are plenty of other folks out there to fund your endeavors. I'm exploring kink & on Reddit and elsewhere to find connections, not subscriptions or services. I appreciate the empowerment of sex workers, but color me 100% uninterested in paying your mortgage, student loans, or God forbid just "to have the privilege to send you a message" 🤢🤮.

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1. Into Trump sympathizers, and probably most Republicans and/or Conservatives. I acknowdge that groups of people aren't always a monolith and don't always think & believe totally similar to each other. And sometimes, even people on the right have a shred of self-awareness & humanity. However, your party has proven to be quite exclusionary, destructive, and antagonistic to the happiness and well-being of non-White/Christian America, and have demonstrated a strong and even purposeful lacking of those aforementioned abilities. So...🤷🏾‍♂️. Even if the individual you isn't like that, then your held opinions & views at least, by default, have regularly proven to be an assault on my existence & livelihood, so I rebuke them in the name of not-White Jesus.

Unfortunately for me -whether I want it to be or not- Kink is political, because my Blackness is politized and under constant attack & scrutiny. I cannot "turn off" or ignore my Blackness, and neither can other POCs or marginalized communities "turn off" or ignore their respective ethnicities or statuses that are also under assault by -traditionally White- Conservative (and sometime Moderate) American culture. Don't misinterpret this as "hate", because I don't possess that sort of energy; this is merely an attempt at protecting whatever measure of peace I can maintain in this lifestyle.

-Six Freedoms Black People Do Not Have Under a White Supremacy by Johnny Silvercloud, Medium.com, May 9, 2020. TW: Two photos of lynchings are buried in the middle of this article. (According to the author, the freedoms denied to Black Americans are: freedom of emotion, freedom of space, freedom of memory, freedom of healing, freedom of self-defense, and the freedom to protect the other five. As he explains each of these freedoms — which White Americans take so much for granted that we don't even name them — the difference between Black America and White America becomes deeply, painfully clear.)

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1. Into anti-maskers, antivaxxers, or people who don't test themselves regularly. Unless you have a valid and medically provable health concern or similar difficulty/challenge, the fact you refuse to be minorly inconvenienced gives me a reverse boner. Anti-intellectualism and indifference to science ain't sexy. Otherwise, any engagement or play would require you to have a recent negative test(s).

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1. Here to have my content stolen or taken without my consent. This is the only verified(for what little that really represents) profile you'll see of myself, and any content posted here will be of myself unless otherwise noted & with consent. Content of this page found elsewhere without my express & explicit consent will be pursued with extreme prejudice.

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1. Particularly responsive to low-effort messages, comments, or chats. Just like many of you, I don't enjoy "heys" or "whatsup" as your initial interactions with me. Nor do I particularly like non-consensual lewd feedback. If I feel that I'm propping up the conversation, or that you're post something on my page that I don't consent to, you'll be dealt with appropriately.