It seems like there is a lot of confusion of the actual definition on findom, and how it’s practiced. As a professional Dom who has been working in this community for close to a decade now I’d love to give some insight.

A professional Dom getting paid for a session, irl or online, is not practicing findom. You are paying for that doms time, expertise, and effort. If it’s IRL you’re also paying for whatever space they’re using.

Findom is a financial domination fetish that is centered around sending money to those you feel are superior to you. You’re not paying for their time, you’re not paying for a session. You’re paying them because they simply deserve it for existing. Humiliation can be a huge part of it, but it’s centered around money.

Learning the difference will be crucial to actually understanding, and finding the right dom for you.