So - you want to send me a message in response to one of my r4r posts. Great! Here are some tips to help you to be successful in this endeavor.

Pre-Work
- Review the details of the post that you are responding to. Observe any dealbreakers or incompatibilies.

Message Content
- Tell me about you - while this can include physical attributes, I really don't find that stuff very interesting right off the bat - I'd much prefer to learn about your soul.
- Basic details about your age, location, parental status and relationship goals are always appreciated
- Please let me know why you are reaching out - what stood out to you about what I wrote, why you think we might be a fit.

Pro Tips
- One word or one sentence messages rarely give me enough information to be able to figure out if you're worth engaging with
- Be sure you're not doing the exact opposite of what I am requesting (Example: In my post I state something like "I prefer to chat with people for a bit before meeting up" and your response just says "Want to get a drink tonight?")
- Sexual or explicit talk right off the bat is not appreciated
- Awareness of mental and emotional labor is something that is very important to me.

Here are some resources for you:

The Manwhore Podcast, Episode 538: How To Hook Up on Reddit
https://open.spotify.com/episode/3QuAs3cwzc1aX0gLMOzyRi?si=kith3TC2QYiYxO1ZRMPC_Q

Article: How To Have A Conversation On A Dating App (Hint: It’s Not That Hard)
https://sarahh03.medium.com/how-to-have-a-conversation-on-a-dating-app-hint-its-not-that-hard-d5a9f469993b