Note: I write these notes to my first man from time to time. A lot of the content is repeated, but still emphases change and new content makes its way. These posts capture my mood at the time they are written.

Hi. I don't know who you are to be.

Maybe you are a good natured older guy with a dad bod, who was once unsure, confused, ashamed; someone who was being forced to believe intimacy is to be shared only between two people of the opposite sex. You understand the struggles a guy can go through in accepting his sexuality in this society and are particularly able to cast aside my clothes and my apprehensions and help me find a new joy in life.

Or maybe you are a Dom who senses what I seek and cleverly challenges me to go one step further, to open myself up to him (and not just physically!), to relinquish control of myself, in order to experience new, unimaginable pleasures. If I'm lucky you have some friends of like mind and desires.

Or maybe yet you're a young adult who is learning what autonomy is, but also same sex pleasure. You have had confusing thoughts about guys. You're not quite sure of things but you know you're being pulled towards them. You know rationally you're entitled to explore your thoughts with the right people. Yet it's not something you feel comfortable bringing up with guys your own age. You'd feel more comfortable, less self conscious if you could open up to an older guy, no matter his level of experience in this.

Whoever you are, I am probably nervous AF being alone with you. I am making myself vulnerable to your eyes and your touch. Please don't abuse my trust in you. I will also respect you.

And also realize sex is more than the money shot at the end. The road to bed is an important part of the journey. And once we reach our sexy destination, there's no particular need to make haste. Let's take our time and savor each other! Let's not be averse to sharing a deep, passionate kiss. This will put our pleasure on another level. It will make you and me closer with each other, and make sex more pleasurable, more meaningful. I want our desire for each other to be complex.