Hi!

Welcome to my Reddit profile, and all its posts and responses.

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Please read through this before contacting or responding to me. It should set the stage for why I'm here and what I'm looking to do.

I'm a single guy in my late 40s in the USA, Buffalo/Western New York region looking for human connection, much like most any other person.

Why am I here?

The underlying reason why I'm here is issues with sexuality. I am a bisexual. This is something I have been struggling with since my early 20s. I have always supported LGBT rights, but found it problematic to accept myself as a guy who likes guys. There was much guilt and shame in this thing that came naturally to me. But through maturing and more importantly the help and support of many, many kind people online I have learned little by little to realize it's not bad to be attracted to the same sex. It took over twenty years, but last summer the realization of my bisexuality just came to me out of the blue, and it seemed right. It was a huge weight off my back! I really wish this discovery happened years ago, but here I am and it's better late than never.

With my newfound acceptance and clarity of my desire for guys, combined with lack of success with the opposite sex, I have decided to focus on guys for now.

So what am I looking for in particular?

1. I'm looking for local (or close enough) guys to meet!I want to start having sex with guys. I've tried dating and hookup sites in the past. Yes, I've searched for guys years before I "made it official." Nothing ever worked out. So I'm trying here. And I have a weird feeling I will be successful here.
2. I'm looking for folks around the world to chat with and have support for each other, especially other bisexuals. For some reason I'm particularly keen on hearing from bisexual women. But really anyone with the right spirit would be wonderful to know. My legs are still wobbly with this, and I have yet to have any real experience with guys. I could use a good nudge every once in awhile, or an alert when I miss an obvious red flag.
3. I'm looking to be supportive. I want to give back. I try to be helpful whenever someone puts up a post and I think I can be useful or supportive. I especially want to encourage people to get rid of the shackles of sexual oppression in terms of dealings with members of the same gender. But really even if the problem has nothing to do with it and I think I can help, I'll try.
4. I'm here to advertise with pictures of me naked, to get guys' attention, show guys an intimate side of me and determine if this interests anyone. Yes, some of these pictures are racy. Again I'm digging deep down to present myself.
5. I'm also putting up such pictures in the hopes guys will be aroused by them. I'm not doing it for money. The price if you want to insist on one is attention. I have exhibitionist tendencies. It would please me very much to know a guy got off on a picture of my naked body. So if you popped a boner after looking at my bare ass, please let me know! It will make me feel sexy, and I will think about your arousal, and the sexy reason behind it, the next time I masturbate. :)
6. I'm not really looking for cybersex. It's fun for me, but only up to a point. After awhile I realize we're not together and it gets frustrating. I can see a small scale pic exchange though. I can see some kink sneak into chat, but for the most part I'd rather talk about my feelings about guys and working on questions I still have.

I want to make it a point that I'm not doing this for money. I'm not judging anyone who is. It's just not my style. It puts a certain kind of pressure I'm not comfortable dealing with. Consequently, I will not take money for making certain poses or anything like that. If there's some kind of picture or video of me you would like to see, I would consider it, but the deciding factor would be mostly if I want to do it. Please don't take it personally if I refuse a request. Just as you have a right to ask, I have a right to turn down.

If you're a lady and you would like to reply, feel free. Though I don't expect any replies from females, I do welcome them. I also invite anyone who feels they don't quite fit into one or the other gender.

The conversation and interaction don't have to be about bisexuality, or even sex. I do have other interests, as we all do.

Please don't!

As this is new to me, and we're dealing with a sensitive side of myself, I feel I have the right to expect certain things. These things might change over time and/or level of experience, and I speak only for myself. I respect the fact other guys have the right to expect certain things too, and if I don't meet their expectations I wouldn't take it personally. I ask other guys don't' take any of my turning them down personally either.

1. Please don't expect us to meet right away. Sex does not come to me at the drop of a hat. I take it very seriously and want very much not to rush it. I want to get comfortable with the ultimate goal, and I want me and any other guys to build a hunger for each other, to enjoy the journey to the destination. I want this to involve some getting to know each other.
2. Please don't start the conversation in a lewd manner. Asking about my penis size or proposing "let's fuck" with your first PM will turn me off and make me assume you are not the right guy for me.
3. Please don't ask me to use any other way to communicate. I might have other social media I use. But for the beginning I would much rather keep the conversation here in Reddit. Over time I acknowledge the nature of our relationship might beg for another means of communication. But until then please don't pressure me to log in anywhere else.
4. Please don't expect to sleep with me if you are married or otherwise involved and she (or he) doesn't know and approve of your involvement with me. I respect there are reasons folks choose to be unfaithful. It's not a judgement call on my part. I leave the decision to the individual. But I would feel very uncomfortable being involved in such a situation, which could cause a lot of tension, conflict and hurt in a relationship. I want to keep away from such a situation.
5. Please don't do hard drugs. I have avoided them all my life for a reason. I also won't drink or smoke as a requirement for sex. I want sex to be enjoyed for its own sake. Besides I don't want to dull my senses.

Please do!

Along with things that are dealbreakers, there are things I would like to ask of any potential guy.

1. Please be considerate of me! Although this has been on my mind for a few decades, I have worked long to accept it, and have zero experience with an actual guy. Please be willing and able to be patient and compassionate with someone like me. I might not be ready to do or accept certain things. I understand if you're used to a more fast paced guy. I wish you to find one or however more would make you happy. But I probably wouldn't be a good match for you.
2. Please realize I'm not looking just to get off. I can do that easily enough by myself. I'm specifically looking to be intimate with another human being. The other person matters to me. The fact the other person is of the same sex as me matters to me. Good sex is more than sex. Let's try to go to another world together.
3. Please use protection. I'm very careful about my health when it comes to avoiding lifetime, debilitating, and sometimes deadly diseases. It's not a matter of accusing each other of anything. It's simply a matter of being safe. One little latex balloon buys a lot of peace of mind. Then the question can virtually definitively be put away. PreP isn't sufficient, besides which it doesn't cover everything.
4. Please respect my right to privacy. I'm not out and I never plan to take steps to come out in any noticeable way. I have chosen to keep this part of myself private. I'm not looking to make a sociopolitical statement with the details of whom I'm attracted to. I just want to go about my business with whoever wants to be part of that business, and not have it be anyone else's business.
5. Please try to be intelligent. I have written quite a lot here, so I expect whoever wants to make contact with me to understand I understand things, and not just sexual things, in a certain way. Try to avoid one word replies. Engage my intellect. I'm a sapiosexual.
6. Please have some kind of sense of humor. Although my thoughts might be intense at times I enjoy and need levity. We all do from time to time. Humor is also a good defense mechanism. I will probably be nervous AF from the beginning. Trying to diffuse and reframe tension with a good joke will be a useful skill. Plus it's fun to laugh!
7. Please keep an open mind. I promise to do my best to do so too. You never know if a good new idea can come about.

Please keep in mind I'm open under the right circumstances to meet up and involve myself with more than one guy at a time. I'm also open to involving ladies in any capacity, even just watching.

And I'm very open to new platonic friendships either in person or online.

Do I want a boyfriend? Right now my goal revolves around sex. I'm not setting out to date a guy. FWB is a more realistic possibility. But just as I have admitted I have a sexual attraction to guys, I also have to admit I might have the capacity to fall in love with a guy too. Although I'm not implying anything of that degree, I will probably feel very close to the man who opens me up, and not just bodily, and takes my virginity (which is all the more important I be with the right guys). For now I'll say I want sex and some kind of connection and cross the bridge to more if we ever get there.

I hope I haven't gone overboard with how much I have written, but I want to be thorough about who I am and what I'm looking for. i guess I won't be too upset if you ask me something and the answer happens to be here. But hopefully you will at least skim through it to get an idea.

So, I hope to meet some good folks online and wind up meeting some of you in person, hopefully eventually, when the time is right, in bed, and maybe more.

And just because I love saying it and I can't get enough of saying it: I am a bisexual. :D