I have received so many questions about how I got into Hotwifing so I thought I would do a post to explain how I got here and why I love doing what I do.

Never in a million years did I ever think this was the path my sex life would take! If you asked me in my more youthful days I would have said absolutely not, no way. Not because I wasn’t super sexual and didn’t have those desires to explore my own sexuality more and my sexual desires with others, but because I was young and cared wayyyy too much about how others would perceive me and my actions. Sure, I had some make out sessions with girls and played around in different sexual scenarios throughout my college years and 20’s, but I never thought that would be possible in a marriage, let alone after having kids. I definitely found as I got older (into my 30’s 😏) and especially after kids, how fast time flies and how much less you care what others think. I guess they call that getting ‘older and wiser’ (aka sexual maturity).

So now, here I am a mom and happily married wife with a firey desire to make my husbands desires and fantasies, a reality. (They are my desires too - it’s not just all about him). Being able to explore and experience the pleasure of having someone else in the bedroom with us brings new and exciting experiences for him and I. I have found myself so much more sexually empowered and comfortable within my own skin too!

I am wayyyyy more horny and eager to experiment now than I ever was in my 20’s - like I absolutely crave it (Queue Britney Spears ‘Gimme’ More’ song ;). I think about it daily and find myself trolling Reddit to see what kind of sexual inspiration I can play out in my own bedroom. (Thank you to everyone who shares their photos and vids - sexual vulnerability can be tough with all the trolls out there. But I have to say I have a lot more positive feedback in this community than negative!)

Ok, so how did I get here.... Well, it all started with cocktails, a hot tub and my husband and I’s best friend. I mean who hasn’t had some wild times with alcohol and a hot tub. I feel like it is just a recipe for sexual fun! That being said, we often would come back from a party or a night out and find ourselves getting into the hot tub. Clothes would come off, bikini on and after a few of these nights I found my top coming off. (I could totally see how excited my husband and friend were by just having my tits out). The next few times we would take it further until everyone would just be naked. Touching and feeling would start and then I found myself giving my husband and our best friend BJ’s (that was my gateway to hotwifing moment). One night, we took it from the tub to the bedroom. Things moved slowly there. I wanted to make sure I was comfortable with the speed of things. My husband and our friend were patient and allowed things to happen at their own pace. We took things a little further each time we got together. Being that we had been friends for so long we wanted to be sure nothing would come between any of us. No jealousy, no issues, and that we would come out of the bedroom all still as great of friends as we went in. Great friends with benefits.

It has been 5 years of fooling around all together and I swear it gets better every time. (My hubby and I have also explored sex clubs, adult pools etc. during that time to really see what the lifestyle was all about. It was a way for us to observe/meet others beyond the comfort of our good friend). So... to make a long story short ;) If you are new to it - take it slow. Don’t rush and don’t think that it is instantly going to be a streamlined interaction without any bumps or hurdles. We have had plenty of embarrassing moments, laughs and amazing experiences throughout the journey in the bedroom. For me the key to great sex and being a Hotwife is open communication, lots of exploration and that I am able to get vulnerable about my needs, to experiment and try new things and most importantly laugh at times!!

If you have any other questions, need some advice I am happy to lend an ear! Happy Hotwifing!! 😘😘 xo, Aubrey