tl;dr — I'm looking for my cute submissive good girl to tie up and tease, either as a play partner or long term. I'm mostly interested in IRL, so driving distance to DFW would be best. I'm willing to relocate, so I could do online to IRL if we are an amazing match. I'm looking for someone without kids, and for a serious relationship no kids in the future either.

playtimes — First, I like to help my girl feel nice and subby for me. Maybe that's with pets and praises, or maybe it's with stern commands and a hand on her throat, whatever works for her. Once she's feeling subby I like my girl in a cute outfit so I can tie her up and run my hands all over her. Then we can play with some sensations, light pain, or whatever else makes my girl squirm for me. If she's into it, this could be a good time for her to use her mouth to please me. But if not, I really don't care too much and I'm very happy to focus on playing with her.

I want to keep tying my girl tighter, removing her outfit, and adding toys like gags and clamps. I want her teased until she's begging me for release. Normally that would use toys like a vibe since I'm not really interested in regular sex. It's something we can talk about but it just doesn't interest me very much. I have my fun by controlling my girl and seeing her helpless and subby for me. Being more strict can also be fun sometimes, so I also enjoy some brat taming, mild cnc, predicaments and interrogation scenes. I'm not much of a sadist so I'm not into marks, welts and bruises.

day-to-day — I want the kinky dynamic to be a core part of our relationship, not just in the bedroom. I like snuggling with my girl whenever possible, and it's even better if she starts to feel subby and wants to be tied up a little. I also like having some structure, rules, and protocols so my girl never has to guess how to make me happy. Obeying the rules gives me a chance to praise her. Breaking the rules gives her a chance to be bratty if that's what she wants, but hopefully not all the time.

Relationship-wise I'm looking for a true partner, and I want to take care of her through life's up and downs so that she feels safe, secure, and loved. I don't especially want to make all the decisions all the time, and I want someone I can trust and rely on when life gets difficult. Trust, communication, and expectations are everything to me, because without them we can't have all the fun we want to have.

me — 6'0", 160lbs, fit, handsome/cute, neat beard, deep voice, childfree, never married

I'm a software developer, and as you might expect, I'm a bit of a nerd and definitely an introvert. I also live that frugal life and am a bit of a minimalist. I do enjoy traveling, going to museums and doing wine/brewery/distillery tours. Looking fit is important to me so I lift weights, and I love to take walks in nature while listening to podcasts but there's not much nature in my area of Texas. Most of the time though I'm happy being a homebody watching TV/movies, reading, playing games, and snuggling with my good girl.

my girl — under 40ish, cis female, single, slim/petite/lean (bonus for flexible), childfree

My girl is a capable adult who can manage her own life and take care of herself. She doesn't need to be constantly busy and on the move to be happy, and she enjoys her time relaxing at home. When she feels taken care of she is happy to make her partner's life a little easier and their day a little brighter. And when she needs something from her partner, she is more likely to be sweet than sassy.

Being in shape and looking good for her partner is a source of pride for my girl. She wants to be admired and shown off, even if it's in the privacy of her own home. She loves to be appreciated for the effort she makes to look cute. My girl is often restrained and unable to move on her own, so I need to be able to easily carry her around. I might be strong for my size, but I'm naturally thin, and my girl is most likely also on the slimmer, lighter side.

dealbreakers — I've resisted putting negatives in my post, but I figure I can save some time by mentioning this stuff up front: no smoking/drugs, no Trump, no anti-science (anti-vax, flat earthers, etc), no hardcore religion, and the big one... no kids now or in the future.

Since you're reading this it means I'm still looking. So send me a message!