So, my wife has come up with a new and exciting thing to do. She wants to take a vacation to Poland. Why? Well, she just wants to. When broached with, how do we afford it, she states, it's not that expensive and look it looks pretty.

I actually came home to this as a discussion about how, my notice period ends in June and she booked days off her lovely cashier job.

Anyways, we had a long discussion about it, to which she stated insane facts about how we never get to go where she wants to. I let that one go without a retort, because that was just completely insane. I have never actually been on any vacation, since I married her, that was a place I wanted to go to. It was always where she wanted to go.

The biggest part of the discussion was her telling me how we could afford it. I laughed at that internally and said, seriously. I gave facts and figures. She broke down into this sob story about the above. I told her, you can go, but I won't. Of course, she hit back with, you want me to go by myself. I told her yeah, I am not going. We continued discussing about finances and I brought up the food bill, I brought up the dog costs, and I brought up how much her daughter is costing us. She was none to pleased by the later. She said she hasn't been giving her money and I told her, the pattern from the past states otherwise. She then told me that it was her money she was using. I said, I thought you weren't giving her any. She said I'm not. I told her, prove it. She told me to prove it. I told her I hardly can make sense of the back transfers from account to account and back again. It truly is hard to follow, but I have a good idea of what is happening. She did tell me she has the amount I expected in her account and it's all from her job since November. I laughed at that. I said no it's not. If you are paying your daughter 30% of your wages and you are only using your money, then you should have no where near that. She said, yes I should. I have more than that. I said, minimum wage at less than 16 hours a week does not support that theory. You are using our money to still assist your daughter and we cannot afford to go.

I didn't say the next part, but maybe I should have. I adjust told her, we could be living much better if she would have let me take any of the other three jobs I got offers from, but she didn't want to move.

There is quite a bit to unpack here, but I feel this is the first time I actually stood up to her and put my foot down.

As I write this, she is probably working on trying to convince her stupid ex-brother-in-law to go with her.

Edit: I just thought of this this morning and forgot to bring it up. When I told her we couldn't afford it, I did bring up the dogs. What I failed to mention was, just last week, she told me, we probably couldn't afford our oldest dogs vet bill because of me quitting my job, which she told the vet. How can she justify a trip to Poland, when we can't afford to care for our dog? I know, it's because she is selfish.

P.S. I quit my job because I am being incredibly underpaid for the work I do (When your new job sees your submitted pay slips and says, you accepted that, you know.) and I hate being told, to my face, that I don't know as much as the experienced people here, when in fact, every time, it's me proving those same experienced people wrong. I just couldn't take it anymore.