title: Ethics of Selling Friendship

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Rules to live by

Everyone has their own code of ethics & standards by which they live by. I have autism, so my existence is dependent on not violating my code ethics. I do sex work, so it's obvious my personal code isn't based on the typical set of morals hypocrites in a church impose upon others.

There are two main standards I apply to my behavior: 1) the Golden Rule, or treat others the way I wish to be treated; and 2) do no harm, which opens things up to interpretation.

Rules and Sales

When the general concept of sales is concerned, we start out in bad ethics. Nothing about our lives should cost. Owing to reality in this end stage capitalist hellscape, we make trades of ourselves for money. Selling sexual services is the most transparent exchange of one's self for money, unlike typical employment where the buyers create false pretences for devaluing the employed.

Rules, Sales, and SW

A client I met recently triggered all of this. I have no dilemma selling my body to them. But they deserve more. Their spirit is asking mine for growth and I want to be friends and help them grow.

No Time For Friends

After churning on this all day, it occurred to me I have friends in a lifestyle I can play with. But I don't. My family & my household keeps us busy. There are many irons in the fire and there isn't time for friends. But I want to coach and mentor my client... Wait a minute.

Paying for Friendship is Valid

Part of why I don't have much time for friends is because we're spending so much of our time trying to earn income, there's no income or time leftover for friends. Of course "it isn't fair" that one person can promote themselves in a hierarchy of friends but having to pay money to exist is real and money pays that bill. A paying friend helps me exist.

More Than Friendship

In the case of my client, my actual goal is to help them improve their knowledge to help them replace me with a lifetime partner who is better for their life than I am.

I want to mentor my client to find an equivalent "me" out in this world and they could be together all the time. Yes, of course we will intermingle buying of body with the mind but for now, I am willing to sell my mind at the same price I'm selling my flesh.

The sales relationship can be blended with life coaching. To me, it is ethical in that I want my friendship to work such that my client can get their needs met without me.

Further it is ethical in that by hiring me now, I hope to ease their access to knowledge I've spent years figuring out. Sparing the client & others harm of lessons learned the hard way - from accidents or negligence.

Is this ho-ing or engineering?

The parallels to my employ as an embedded software engineer through this discussion are uncanny.