This is a "some, not all" topic, but ffs. Some of y'all need to quit using the lifestyle to justify cheating. I do my best not to judge, everyone has their own thing, but blatantly cheating, and saying it's okay because I'm a "hotwife", or "well you sleep with other people, that's what I'm doing". Yeah, but I have open conversation with my husband, he encourages me in my experiences, I leave the playdate and go home to him. He's fully aware of what I'm doing, he knows who I'm with, and I communicate with him the entire time. If you're married, and want someone "discreet" so your wife doesn't find out, I'm not the one. I won't be the one to out you, but if an angry spouse pops in my inbox, I won't lie to her. You want to be able to sleep around? You just need something different from time to time? Then have the conversation. Just talk to them about it. You'll never know unless you sit down and have an adult conversation. If you can't, then you don't need to be doing it. Cheating is cheating, using what my husband and I do as justification is fucked up, and drives me crazy. I'm switching from the term "hotwife" to "vixen", this won't affect anything I do, or post, but it might give some clarification to those of you looking for something specific.