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What the Neighbors See

WHAT MAKES ME DIFFERENT FROM OTHER MEN

I was bored with my bio description, so I decided to do something different and ask the wonderful women in my life what my Bio they would write for me and are the flattering complements they gave me:

"A rare find indeed; a golden combination of being a true gentleman and BAD BOY who treats me with respect outside the bedroom and very fun to play with inside the bedroom".

While I have a proclivity to pleasing my lovers dominantly, this can be open to misinterpretation as there is not a definition that I conveniently fit into. The combination of being gentle, caring and loving combined with perverted sex is what I enjoy, what I am experienced at and highly skilled at.

She continues:

"I always have a great time with you. In fact, I don't think I've ever had a time with you that was not great. The energy between the two of us is always so intense and passionate and yet at the same time chill.

I've always been attracted to your confidence, and how while you are in complete control of manhandling me you always make me feel safe, both emotionally and physically.

You have this caring confidence about you that is very endearing and I find very sexy. And then there is this kinky BAD BOY side of you...that is just delicious. I’ve never had a man make me feel so comfortable, relaxed and who thoroughly pleasures me as you. You have this innate skill of seeming to know exactly how and when to please me, without my ever wanting or expecting to receive it.

I am oddly comfortable submitting to you my control and have your way with me, in a way I’ve never been able to come to similar terms with other men (which I can tell you for my Type A personality is something I never relinquish). I have enough demands placed upon my job and having to make decisions all day long that I appreciate you not feeling intimidated by a strong woman as so many men are of me.

It is your sincere friendship, however, the genuine care and concern for my well-being without asserting any ownership over me... that is my favorite thing about you. Our physical interactions are intense, but I never feel objectified. You're a naughty feminist's ideal lover and friend".

Wow, it doesn’t get better than “DELICIOUS”, does it?

Yet another lover, who was dominant in her personal life but submissive in her kink life, described me this way:

"Your so different from most of the men from my past who when they are rough with me it feels like they are fucking their frustrations out on me. Too many men take it too far and so instead of enjoying being dominated I feel frightened, which is why I stepped away. I naively thought that after explaining my hard no's that men would respect my limits, but their either choose to ignore them or think that being submissive thinks they can do whatever they want to me without repercussions.

But you never cross over the line. Nor have you ever made me feel comfortable. Quite the contrary. I feel very safe when I'm with you. It is uncommon to meet a man like you who regards me as both a treasure to be protected and taken care of, but also as a toy to be used and played with, as hard and often as you wish. You know how to take me right to the edge of the unexpected, but never over. That my darling you do better than anyone.

Above all else, you have always been from the very beginning a friend who I know I can trust completely. You care about me, want me to be happy and treat me with respect. I appreciate you so much and I am so thankful, grateful, you randomly fell into my life."

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My Current Lover

My current lover, who I adore and whose friendship has so much meaning to me, asked if she could leave me a "review" after I made her aware I created this post. Here is what she wrote (unedited):

"5 out of 5 stars!!! I don't usually leave reviews, especially not for lovers, but in this case I'll make an exception. I'm hoping to be as helpful and unbiased as possible, so, taking a page from some of the most useful Amazon product reviews I've read, I'll start with the cons.

CONS

- he is neither an early bird nor a night owl. This can limit his windows of availability, but it has never been an issue for me.

- he has a career that can be stressful at times and cause last minute changes in plans. It doesn't happen too often, and he tries to give as much warning as possible.

- he doesn't wear condoms. Honestly, when we first met, this was the most significant concern for me. It doesn't worry me anymore, now that I've seen how selective he is about vetting other partners, how consistent he is with STI testing, and how he will always share any information about his sexual health with me.

PROS

- he is sexy AF! I know everyone finds different physiques appealing, but I think his facial features, height, and body type make him objectively hot. Beyond being superficially attractive, he also has a keen intellect and sparkling personality that only add to his desirability. To top it all off, he doesn't take life or himself too seriously, and that chill frame of mind is so alluring.

- He regards his lovers as human beings - not toys to be used and discarded. It's both sad and surprising how rare and refreshing this is. The first time we met for coffee, we just talked about ordinary things, and he never once gave me that look like a hungry wolf eyeing a juicy steak.

- he is intuitive and responsive to relational and sexual preferences. For me, this translates to a great friend with whom I have amazing sex. And when it comes to sex, I can tell that he really pays attention to how I respond to different things and adjusts what he does to maximize my pleasure."

Wow! Thank you ladies!

COMMUNICATIONS AND COMPATIBILITY ARE A PRIORITY

To connect with you personally and take you to places you have never experienced or acts you have never performed before, I must know exactly what you want and trust that you are being open and honest with me about your expectations, your innermost fantasies, needs and desires, and hard limits.

Through mutual trust and admiration both of us can freely share our most innermost and secretly arousing fantasies (Now doesn't that sound like fun?). The vulnerability that comes from sharing our perversions both arouses my anticipation and excites me to be available to accommodate my lover whenever she wants, however she likes and as frequently as she wants.

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With my Favorite Couple (taken by my lovers husband)

COUPLES

Couples are a joy to be with and my last relationship, which was cuckold, developed in a very good friendship. They were hoping to find a man to add excitement to their love life, found me and after the wife wrote me this message, well, how could this not capture my attention:

"I am 48 years old, brunette, 5'4"-tall, who loves being submissive. I fantasize about more than anything in having a lover that, while respecting me as a person outside the bedroom, absolutely views me in the bedroom as his sex object to be used however he sees fit. I want him to feel like he owns me, and that I will instantly drop to my knees or spread my legs as soon as he says the word. I love the idea of you letting me suck on you and then fucking me but teasing me without letting me come for an extended period of time. I also fantasize that you would make me beg sometimes, and that you would share me with other men (have friends? Wink wink). This done while my husband watches and/or participates. Or, takes care of our kids and lets me come to your home to fuck you alone".

This couple was a perfect fit for me – the husband eager for me to have my way with his bride while she blushingly revealed how much she enjoyed being used and pleasured under my guidance. This couple was beautifully in love, in the way they trusted me, and in the way they gained my trust to fulfill her innermost desires.

We explored sex in adventures new ways that they never previously imagined, and that made it even more enjoyable. If you try something once and do not like then you do not have to try it again. However, if you do like something you have never tried before and love it, variety can become an aphrodisiac. It sure was that for us, but unfortunately, they moved out of state leaving void in my life that I am seeking to fill. What we had was rare and I do not expect it to be easy finding another couple quite like them.

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My Current Lover with her Favorite Toys (that's plural)

MESSAGE ME IF

Physical attractiveness is, of course, a prerequisite to being lovers, but I have no time for anyone ruined by their own external beauty. Regardless to how adorable you may be true beauty comes from within and personality is more important than any other attribute. Those interested in creating exciting experiences together must be easy on the eyes and intellectually intriguing - adept or at least capable of developing a deep relationship and eager to explore the many variations of fun that I'll have planned. If you are appropriately real-life sexy in that you understand that sexy is much more than simply looking hot - you must be interesting and engaging - then you understand what I am seeking.

If you want to be more sexually uninhibited and free in new hedonistic ways, with a man who takes pleasure in fulfilling his lovers kinks and fantasies, but find the process of finding a lover equal-parts intimidating, terrifying and exciting, then I may be the type of man who can make you feel surprisingly comfortable and relaxed. And, most importantly, safe.

It is important to note that nothing about what I am seeking is “casual”. I am a man who prioritizes quality over quantity and so I choose my lovers wisely and I am looking to meet a playmate I can get excited about being with who will be equally as excited to see me and who wants to be valued, spoiled, and thoroughly pleasured.

I live and work in Beaverton, Oregon and am free and available most Mondays through Thursdays in the evening and day-time with the ability to host when available. I am DDF with blood work (full panel in February) to confirm and also have a vasectomy so you will have a worry-free, safe and, most importantly, fun, pleasurable and memorable experience.

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Yes, I know. I am a heavy cummer.