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I Adore Her

I've been the primary lover to this wonderful woman for over six years now and we' have become very close friends. She is married and in an open relationship and happens to live only 5 miles from me in Hillsboro (I'm in Beaverton). She messages me on KIK (1kinkyusername) whenever she has the urge, and nothing gives me greater joy than pleasing her.

Being a shy introvert, it took her awhile to open up to me. She had a desire to be more uninhibited and freer and wanted to explore your sexuality outside her marriage in exciting, new hedonistic ways, but found the process of meeting a man both intimidating and frustrating. My gentlemanly-like nature made her feel comfortable and relaxed -- something I'd say is my strongest attribute as a lover and friend.

It took a while until we found our rhythm, but ever since then the sex we have is intensely enjoyable. What makes our encounters so intense is the trust, mutual respect and admiration we have for each other. We both can confide with each other our innermost secrets, fantasies and desires with each other and not fear repercussions of being judged for our perversions and kinks. We quickly bonded and our relationship bloomed from casual lovers (at the start) into a friendship. She has become my confidant and I'm grateful to have met her. I wish I could meet more women like her, who do not suppress their sexuality and are not afraid to explore it with others. It is her open-mindedness to explore her sexuality that strongly drew her to me initially, but its her sincerely friendship that has developed over time, that I cherish the most.

The beauty of our lovership is how much closer we have become with our spouses, who are so supportive of giving us freedom to be together. It has strengthened the bond I have with my wife in a way that is hard for people who are not in open relationships to understand. Perhaps it is as simple as helping them understand ‘Why would you ever leave something great?’. I have it all.

Bored with my profiles on My Profile on OKCupid and Lifestyle Lounge, I decided to do something very different and asked the wonderful women in my life what they would share about me with others. Here’s what this lover said about her direct experience with me, which I find hilarious, moved and humbled that she took the time to write this:

“5 out of 5 stars!!! I don't usually leave reviews, especially not for lovers, but in this case, I'll make an exception. I'm hoping to be as helpful and unbiased as possible, so, taking a page from some of the most useful Amazon product reviews I've read, I'll start with the cons.

CONS

- he is neither an early bird nor a night owl. This can limit his windows of availability, but it has never been an issue for me.

- he has a career that can be stressful at times and cause last minute changes in plans. It doesn't happen too often, and he tries to give as much warning as possible.

PROS

- he is sexy AF! I know everyone finds different physiques appealing, but I think his facial features, height, and body type make him objectively hot. Beyond being superficially attractive, he also has a keen intellect and sparkling personality that only add to his desirability. To top it all off, he doesn't take life or himself too seriously, and that chill frame of mind is so alluring.

- He regards his lovers as human beings - not toys to be used and discarded. It's both sad and surprising how rare and refreshing this is. The first time we met for coffee, we just talked about ordinary things, and he never once gave me that look like a hungry wolf eyeing a juicy steak.

- he is intuitive and responsive to relational and sexual preferences. For me, this translates to a great friend with whom I have amazing sex. And when it comes to sex, I can tell that he really pays attention to how I respond to different things and adjusts what he does to maximize my pleasure.

- he maintains healthy emotional boundaries. He never gets jealous or controlling of my interactions with others, and I know he will never do anything to jeopardize his own primary relationship or mine.

- he is a generous lover who will go above and beyond to please his partners in bed. If I'm ever in the mood for something specific, or if I have a filthy fantasy that I want to explore, he will make it happen.

- he strives to make sure I feel physically and emotionally safe and comfortable. This has helped a lot in allowing me to explore my darker desires, because I know he is aware of my needs in the moment and won't let things get out of hand.

- he is dominant and rough without being domineering or scary. This creates a perfect sensual balance. When he holds me down, I don't have to pretend that I can't move because he is actually holding me down. When he smacks my butt , he leaves a perfect tingly red handprint. He doesn't hold back, but he will only assume as much control as you are willing to relinquish and not a bit more.

Certainly, this is not an exhaustive list, and some of it might even seem redundant, but it's not easy for me to sum up my thoughts about such an amazing and multifaceted person into a single review. I can honestly say that this man is the single best lover I've ever had. HIGHLY RECOMMEND!!!"