Hi! After a life of vanilla which I still very much enjoy, I’ve noticed recently there are some aspects of gentle femdom that intrigue me – mentally, physically, and maybe even spiritually. Outside this community, I know what I’m about and often walk the fine line between confidence and arrogance. But here, there’s so much to learn – so why not put on the student-hat I’m so familiar with, and look for my teacher? I intend to approach this with the same tenacity I have for my career, and becoming a better romantic partner – so I think starting online with plans to meet up is ideal, or online only and we say our goodbyes when the time is right. I mean it's been a couple of weeks since I've started looking into this, and I really just want someone to share all the bdsm-related jokes I've been working on.

About me:

5’9” Asian American born and raised in SoCal, currently recovering from a medical thing that turned me into a big boy. I have no plans to stay at this weight especially since I have a handle on the medical thing now – regardless, you will never be more attracted to my body than my intelligence or personality so it’s a moo-point. I grew up wanting to become a professional gamer, but my parents “suggested” I become a pharmacist instead. I basically achieved my life’s dream at 25 (minus finding the one), only to then be taught a cruel, 8-year life lesson. So here I am, heading back to graduate school with some slight shift in priorities and a new conviction for life.

You:

You’re between 23-35 years old (95% Confidence Interval). You are okay with my priority 1a being my career and health; and are secure with being priority 1b once I clarify what health and career mean. Whatever you’d like to turn me into, please trust that we have to start gently. Please be patient and direct as I learn. Honestly, I see things online saying a good sub is like "a knight laying down his sword, and kneeling for his queen." NAH NAH NAH, completely submitting mentally to a domme is like me throwing you the keys to our Ferrari - it could be fun but I hope you know what you're doing.

Let’s put some effort into making sure we’re both real so we’re not wasting anyone’s time. I've been online since Y2K, so we can do the little "Are you a scammer" dance if you insist.

There's homework already!?

You appreciate my effort but would like to see me learn more about femdom before talking? Well because of my ADD, I prefer TED talks, journals, or articles over books, but a must-read is a must-read. Let me know!

P.S. If I could change my username for this profile it'd be - BigSubNRG.