***Self-awareness, emotional stability, empathy, honesty, consistency, and excellent communication skills are a must. I don't do hookups and I have zero interest in a quick fuck. I don't want a fwb or to be your dirty little secret. Also, I am a submissive and that is not going to change so please don't ask me to dominate you. Lastly, I am very happily married and have been for 20 years!! That is not going to change. I am polyamorous and he is very supportive. If you think I am asking for too much, then it's best not to waste your time listening to me ramble!

*** I am still trying to work through having my heart broken so I am not looking to jump into anything right away. I am still struggling badly but I am determined to get through this. I will be better and stronger because of it!

I'm ultimately looking for a Dominant / Primal with Daddy tendencies. I need to be able to explore and embrace my submissive side. I am passionate about and fascinated by sex and all things kink. I have an extremely high sex drive so I would like someone who is also very sexual.

I am attracted to intelligence and personality. I am extremely attracted to someone who is thought-provoking, creative & generally curious about life! A mind that can challenge mine is what I desire. I want to know who you are and what makes you smile when you’re sad. I want to know how you treat others and hear about your goals and accomplishments. I want to know what you’re passionate about and what experiences made you the person you are today! I want to hear about your failures and about life changing moments. I want to know YOU!

I crave that giddy rush that comes from making a connection. I want to feel that excitement you feel when you meet someone who lights a fire inside of you. I crave your mind. I crave your curiosity, your creativity, your passion. I crave your desire to learn more about yourself and the world around you. Teach me! Show me! Share your world with me. I want an emotional and intellectual connection. As someone who’s passionate about learning, I'm attracted to others who share this quality. I am equally excited to hear what you’re learning about and require a partner who wants to share knowledge in both directions.

As trust builds, I want you to be able to communicate your feelings and fears. I want to celebrate your wins and be there when everything seems to be going wrong. I want to be your light in the dark and the reason you smile. I want to help you fight your demons and give you comfort when you are struggling. I want to be your safe place.

As the relationship develops, I want to feel loved and appreciated. I want to hear how happy and proud I make you. I want to feel treasured and wanted. I want to be your good girl. I want to feel your arms around me after an intense play session or when I just need someone to hold me. I want to be the reason you smile and laugh. I want to be the person who brings out your playful silly side. I want to be your friend, your partner, your lover, and your submissive. I want to be someone you can confide in. I want to be the person you can come to with a new idea or an exciting story. I want to be the person who you can sit down and have deep meaningful conversations with. I want to be someone who is a positive influence in your life. I want to be the person who makes you happy!

I want to know that I can show you a deeply intimate part of myself, a side that no one else sees. I want to know that I am emotionally safe to be completely “naked” with you. I want to feel like I am unconditionally accepted for my desires, kinks, and fantasies. I want to be able to talk about and explore our desires and fulfill our fantasies together. I want you to feel like you can open up to me in the same way. I want to share a deep connection and a level of intimacy that can't be experienced with another person.

I need to feel emotionally safe to talk to my partner about anything. I need to be able to trust that I can be me and not upset you over little things. I have walked on eggshells long enough and I can't do it anymore. I need to be able to have a conversation and not have to hold back because I am worried that I will frustrate or upset you. I need to feel like no matter what, you would never intentionally say or do anything to hurt me. Even if I were to accidentally trigger you, I need you to want to talk about it and work through it in a loving respectful way. I need to feel like my feelings are considered and handled with care.

Growth is extremely important to me. Doing something I previously couldn’t. Sustaining what was once unsustainable. Learning as much as I can about myself. Experiences that make me have to sit back and reflect are my kink! I crave experiences that lead to a greater self-awareness and growth. I don't just crave them, I need them! I need to have experiences that make me question what I think I know about myself. I need fear and excitement. I need to feel my heart pound as I tremble beneath your fingertips. I need to feel that adrenaline rush. Trigger my fight or flight. Show me how helpless I am. Show me who I belong to. Show me you have studied every reaction and know exactly how far to push me.

I relish being able to finally, in one aspect of my life, let go and have someone else take charge. It allows me to leave behind who I am and access this hidden facet of myself. In the bedroom, I get to be submissive, obedient, vulnerable, and helpless, all of the things I am not in my everyday life. I get to let those walls crumble and show you a side of myself that few see.

I crave anything that makes me feel vulnerable, helpless, powerless. I love not knowing what you have planned. Being overwhelmed and pushed out of my comfort zone is a huge thrill for me. I also love doing things that make me feel naughty. I want to feel uncomfortable at times. Things that make me blush also make me wet!

I want to feel owned. Sometimes, I want to be put in my place. I want to feel that control both physically and mentally. I also want to feel how much you want me, how badly you want to use me. I want you to take out your sexual frustrations on me. Use me for your pleasure. I want to be yours to use whenever you want!

I love being overwhelmed with and completely lost in pleasure. I want you to push the limits. When you are teasing me and I am a desperate needy mess, I want you to tease me a bit more. When I don't think I can take more, I need to be shown that I can. I want you to push me to my limits. Sometimes, I need you to. Turn off my brain and only allow me to feel.

Sometimes, I just want to be devoured and consumed by a bold, confident, dominant man without being asked. This is a deep sexual craving I have had for as long as I can remember. Nothing compares to experiences like these. Sometimes, I desperately need to be broken, especially during times when I feel like I am struggling with my insecurities and negative self-talk. I need to feel overwhelmed, afraid, vulnerable, and helpless. I need to have my choices taken from me. I need the fear to distract me from the neverending overthinking. I need to feel like I can't take anymore. Then, I need you to prove me wrong. I need to feel my heart racing, feel the adrenaline pumping. I need to feel like I truly have no control and trust that you will take care of me in the ways you know I need.

I want to feel your strength as you pin me down. I want your threats to leave a trail of goosebumps on my flesh. I want to feel fight or flight kick in and then I want to feel the fear when I realize just how helpless I am. I want to see the devilish look in your eyes and hear the excitement behind your whispered threats. Show me how much I can take. Show me what I can endure. Make me surrender. Show me who is in control, who owns my pleasure. Make me yours!

Break me until the fragile little girl appears. Tell me how happy I made you as you hold me. I desperately want to be your good girl. Being held and showered with love and praise after being broken is where love and trust grows. It's where I feel safe, loved, and cared for.

Physically, I am typically attracted to Males who are 35 - 45ish with and average - for body, great hygiene, and great stamina! These are not requirements. Personality is what matters most!