Has it really been two months?!

Hi friends! Forgive me! Work had me alll over the darn place, I helped a girlfriend move which resulted in me crashing the moving van (wasn't my fault) AND I also got sick for a week which was not fun. Why does it take being sick for you to truly appreciate being healthy. Nonetheless, I'm back and hopefully more consistently. Thank you to all of the lovely messages from people who love my blog posts. It was originally meant to be a form of therapy for myself, but I'm so happy that subs and dommes alike appreciate them.

Lions and tigers and bears, oh my! Undercover Alphas and Dispensers and Clarity, OH MY! ... I decided to combine all three of these things because over the years they have evolved into pet peeves of mine that somehow always find a way of following me. Now, before anyone decides to get butt-hurt and feel like I'm aiming anything at them... this is MY opinion and MY experience. I also no longer respond to lies and trolling, I protect my energies and make love to the block button.

The first of the three evils... Undercover Alphas. There is nothing more unattractive than an Alpha male that poses as a submissive in order to seduce and eventually dominate a domme. If I had a nickle... It's to be expected that it would happen here reddit. Guy gets horny, one night, logs on, sees a hot girl make a post in a personals thread about being a domme... dm's her... says hes a submissive... they chat a little... then he sends her a cock pic and says "Wanna let me fuck you?"... DID YOU READ THE POST?! No you didn't, and your insolence makes me want to bend you over and make you take my 8 inch dildo as it erupts fake cum into your anal cavity!... but I digress... It's the dating sites that get me. A guy will see you as a challenge. As something that he can conquer, dominate and own. Despite KNOWING you're a domme, he'll play along until he has your heart THEN he'll hit you with a "women are meant to be submissive." Disappointment doesn't even fully encompass the feeling that comes... You feel used, betrayed and the worst of all unsatisfied. An unsatisfied woman is a dangerous thing... but that's a topic for another day.

The second. Kink Dispenser. Look! If you want nothing more than a one night stand, say that! We aren't made of glass. A domme will gladly put you in the pile of fuck boys and use you for what you're worth and keep it moving. Just be HONEST. I will never understand why people lie... when you lie once, you have to come up with a million other lies to cover the first lie you told. Everyone has sexual urges, but don't make up some story and then ghost someone who truly builds a bond with you. IRL, absolutely not, but even online. Sadly, the world is evolving into a digital humanoid hybrid (i think that makes sense) and the connections you form online are sometimes even greater than the ones you form in real life... and it's only going to get worse as technology advances. So be kind! Lead with love and compassion. If you just want a quick nut, say that!

And lastly, the BANE of my existence. Cum Clarity. Fuck a cum clarity. This has to be the worst thing for all dommes. You form a strong bond with a sub. You build trust. Invest time, energy and sometimes even money. You begin to play and explore... he enjoys it, so you do more... he begins to REALLY enjoy it... he begs you to let him cum.. you say not yet. He begs again, you say no. He PLEADS, this time your heart aches a little...so... you make that one rookie mistake.... You let him cum to soon.... ALL OF A SUDDEN the walls start caving in on him. He gets anxious. He feels humiliated. He feels like less of a man. He feels like he's gay because he put something up his ass (biggest eye roll). He thinks of his family. Parents. Embarrassment. Shame. He either lashes out on you or he runs off, blocks you.... And you, my sweet sweet domina are sitting there with dildo in one hand, his cum all over your chest and so much lube all over your body you would dominate a slip and slide race... And now... you're left alone... again. I wish I had an answer for this one. What's worked for me in the past is holding off. Make them EARN that cum. Keep them dancing just long enough for you to get off, then if they all of a sudden have this "awakening", bid them adieu. Best wishes on your journey. May you find peace and happiness.

So happy to be back! Hope you've all been well!

Miss Ivory L xo