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on instagram i came across a page that reshared this classic 80s comedy skit of a man and woman in an office trying to negotiate a marriage. and them not being able to work out key terms of what they wanted out of it, and ending up ending it before it started.

people laugh at it because they aren't used to that amount of openness and frankness when sharing needs, wants, desires, and coming to a mutually satisfying middle ground, or realizing there's not going to be one found..and how amicably they ended things.

while this doesn't just happen in the bdsm/kink world and vanilla people of a certain degree/standard/quality do this as well....it's a central core of how everyone of every level in kink/bdsm does this. though depending on maturity level, when the impasse occurs it's not always amicable as they did here. and of course while not always love is involved, love is definately a common part of the equation in the scene as well.

i thought the instagram-er was funny in saying 'dating in 2024 is like' when i was thinking...for some people dating has been like this for quite a long time..and dating like this has been going on for millenia. dating for live is still relatively new and very western on the global scale.

well, i'm GLAD you finally decided upon the direct approach. yeah, well i'm a business man at heart. as am i. what's your offer?