So, I am way too picky about what I'm looking for when chatting with people sometimes, so I want to write down kinda maybe what I want. I'm not entirely sure I fully understand it myself, but I'll give it a shot.

First and foremost, I'm a gigantic fan of noncon and the like, and my goal for bratting most of the time is to get a potential partner pissed off with me, as brats do. But, that's really not for everyone, and it also takes me out of the right mindset if I have to explain what I'm looking for. It ruins the noncon vibes if I have to say I'm looking for noncon, yeah? so part of the purpose of this post is to give potential partners the rundown on what I'm looking for, how to treat me, without me having to actually explain it personally.

So, don't actually mention that you've read this post if we're chatting. I like it when my partners have that plausible denialbility.

Alright, some BDSM theory for you: I don't generally consider myself a submissive. Submissives obey. They give their obedience away. I'm very very bad at that. I want my submission to be taken. I want to struggle, I want to put up a fight, and I want to lose. Not necessarily (just) physically, but also emotionally or socially. I want to and will push back, deny, deflect, be horribly sarcastic, etc., and my ideal partner will cut through all that and force me into my place.

So, obviously, in real life, the brat dynamic can utilize force. The brat tamer can always bend the brat over and physically show them their place until they give in. But, since I mostly do this over reddit messages, this isn't really an option. I've found that it can be tricky to manage, which is very fair. It's a weird dynamic. But maybe I can give some ideas on how to tame the online brat?

So, for me especially, I almost always start off aloof and very sarcastic. Insults and dismissiveness and all that jazz. I'm trying to piss you off, because angry men threatening me and yelling at me really gets to me. It doesn't have to necessarily be a realistic threat, I'm really just trying to set a tone, and that tone is angry graphic noncon threats. If you can actually make me feel afraid, I might just break.

The other thing is it's basically impossible for me to just submit. Even if I'm enjoying myself, I really struggle with just saying "okay". You kinda have to corner me into it. That's tricky to do in a conversation, I've found. But remember, I ultimately want to lose, so you can just keep pushing until I do. Start with smaller things. Making me admit I really like very unfeminist smut, for example. Use those smaller victories to keep pushing. Make me admit I'm wet, or touching myself. Tease me for it. Just pick smaller goals and whittle me down until you win that goal, and then use that to push me further.

I know this sort of thing isn't for everyone, so my apologies if I just sound like a diva. I know I'm way too picky, but my hope has always been that someone will just click in the right way. If this sort of idea does appeal to you, and you can put up with me being a huge sarcastic jerk, feel free to take a shot. Just, remember that there's kiiiind of a noncon element to all this, so don't actually tell me you read this post or whatever, cause that kills the spontaneity for me, and ruins the fantasy.

Anyways, sorry for being a drama queen. Thanks for reading if you made it this far ❤️