I’m domme leaning it says in the profile but being constantly approached solely as a domme despite being a switch and saying that I have been having more submissive desires lately has left me feeling a little stifled. It would be one thing if switching was emphasized which I love but every time it’s just submissive men/switches who have primarily been dominant wanting to submit ( seemingly exclusively ) or guys who have never submitted before wanting to explore for the first time with me. It’s all rather overwhelming and draining cause I don’t feel like folks read on what sort of domme I am very much NOT a gentle/caretaker type—-sometimes I feel like I’m being plugged into a fantasy than creating a new one with folks.

The dynamics presented don’t even seem appealing and not to get too deeply ( how the common ideas of femdom never really have to do with the woman’s pleasure ) into somehow feel like it comes down to me during the work/planning/acting without much in return cause I’m not one of those ( wonderful in their own right ) don’t need to be touched/your pleasure is my pleasure, denial for the both of us dommes which I’m definitely not. Especially as someone heavy into the fantasy of feminine supremacy. I like service and no one approaches me with that and it’s just tiring. Just “caring” endlessly for a man is totally not my style cause I’m feline I like being sweet one moment mean the next but the reality is a lot of the ways cis men way offer to serve me does nothing especially when we don’t have much of a personal connection.

Like I’m not a cis man seeing ass isn’t going to rock my world, pegging is wonderful but I still don’t have feeling in my strap and not going to make me cum and just constantly feel folks aren’t considering how to make me cum if me cumming factors in all at all. Like I should get soaked over the thought of fulfilling all of a stranger’s fantasy that left me feel more like a dominatrix ( sexy but sexless ) than like a domme.

I like a pliable participant someone who worships and acts on me in hopes I’ll do the same. I just want to feel considered and higher up in play.

I’m writing this more as a vent than discourse ( cause I think folks forget this is just my personal profile and I’m just some gal in Brooklyn talking about my feelings ) but if you don’t want to be those of submissive person focused on yourself and make more connections with dommes me or other lovely ladies—-

Ask them about how they like to be pleased? What their fantasies are ( outside of you/using you )? Anyways you can improve their lives? ( And genuinely mean it and be prepared if it is something not sexual or something not about you )

I actually have a book recommendation with prompts for sexual conversation: The Ultimate Guide to Seduction and Foreplay by Jessica O’Reily.

( This isn’t shade at any one in specific I get dozens upon dozens of messages—-this just comes up almost universally )