This is a vent but this is also my page so I can talk how I want on but I’m just tired of being horny all the time and I’m even more tired of the mining for a partner on here. I’ve periodically had ads on here and have only really meet three dudes ( only one I had any real fun with ) from them despite the easily hundreds of allegedly interested ( but as we are aware a lot of people don’t really read the ads and approach me with desires I don’t share, only interested in writing shit erotic in my inbox, poor communication, faceless, or majority of the time racist/bigoted/weird in some way). I’m tired cause been through dozens of talking stages without much to show for it and not sure how to change my approach or attract a different sort. And the gag is I’m not super picky, I suppose a better way is I’m rather open and have talked to several guys I’ve been very interested in seeing—-the stuff just never seems to make that leap into real life or do it well.

I’m tired of being disappointed when I really have an interest in a guy and things boom because lot racism/sexism/not taking COVID seriously which is frustrating when I make my boundaries clear in my ads, during initial contact and during conversations. But it’s not these men come out of the gate awful but it’s the slow burn that is so frustrating when they crap the bed for no reason cause be upfront and not waste my time. It’s shitty on the face of it cause bigotry and not taking COVID seriously are simply not okay but the comfortable and dissonance men have to think of it as a non-issue like I should just ignore it or endorse that sort of behavior?

And I hate it cause I don’t want to constantly be affirming my boundaries/cutting off promising relationships when people can just not trespass them. Like why can’t a cis man can’t just be normal for two seconds? Like I’m really just trying to fuck and have a mutually fun time that’s all.

I’m just not sure what to do cause I tried talking for a while before meeting—-disappointment, so I tried video chatting and ( or at least trying lots of people just seem to be noncommittal forever when it comes to meeting and I only ask twice ) meeting up more quicker—-nothing and it’s like what the hell is this being more complicated than need be? I am just a humble switch that wants fun with someone safe responsible and fun to be around in a vanilla sense cause personally can’t do one-off hook ups.

And I just don’t want to be inappropriate on other dating apps, I obviously want something more sexual and sexually niche at that so it’s not like I can be on Tinder and be like looking for a dude to be my oral sex or whatever cause that’s the same but this space and places like Fetlife haven’t produced much either and it sure what to do.