And instead of busying yourself with writing what is often a few paragraphs or more, busy yourself with examining the racism within that statement.

It is not a compliment.

Seeing me as a taboo porn category and not a full fledged person does not turn me on. I write in numerous places, in my bio, in my hard limits, pepper it into every post I write and yet without fail this degradation continues.

It is not a compliment.

Please stop telling me you haven’t been with a black woman before and how you always desired to, stop desiring and think for moment what exactly are you desiring? What do you envision would be so different about a black woman’s body compared to any other woman? This woman is she real or some racist caricature of a person? In this radically different Jungle Pussy experience, do I smell of Shea butter and coat your dick in coconut oil from my beautiful Nubian pussy? I’m a woman, a black woman but just a woman like any other.

Stop comparing hyperfixatng on my skin color. Comparing it to food stuffs in non-consensual dehumanization. It often just sounds you want to either eat me cannibal style or skin me and wear it. There are a ton of other compliment me about than my skin color, like I dunno that it’s smooth? Like I take care of it and proud of that. Reducing my multi-facet identity and personhood in just my skin is just so gross.

Please stop projecting onto me your racialized hyperfixating. I don’t go to bed at night dreaming of white cock. So no your big white cock means nothing to me, cause large cocks regardless of color don’t do anything for me. Sexually, I don’t feel like there is a radical difference based on race, and any difference between partners would be on based on the individual.

Please stop speaking to me in ways I know you don’t speak to non-black women, like please stop using AAVE/Ebonics in means to I dunno impress me, connect to me? Like stop thinking you need to speak in jive to me, it’s patronizing and problematic in a layered way I don’t want to unpack but please stop. An extension of this would stop assuming familiarity with me that I know you don’t extend to non-black women. I’m not easier because I’m a black woman, specifically a dark skinned black woman. Like please recognize you are a stranger to me and would appreciate the respect and politeness you would offer you know a complete stranger.

Like I’m tired of this disgusting racialized comments I get day after day from strangers. It just makes my skin crawl and being a submissive man fetishizing me as a superior black Goddess does not mean you aren’t fetishizing me all the same. Like eroticizing the stereotype of the strong takes no shit ““sassy”” often hypersexual black woman does not turn me on.

Like I’m not trying to play out any taboo black woman fantasy because there is nothing taboo or inherently wrong or scandalous about being with a black woman or interracial relationships. Nor am I’m trying to live out anyone’s slave master/slave roleplay and inversely if you are trying to atone for some white guilt how about offering me reparations in money rather than white hole because performing the task of being your hot ebony dominantrix is just more labor you want me from for free so.

This is rant yes but it’s something on my mind because I get literal NAZIS in my inbox and it just so revolting like please say me the horror.