Good morning. Today I bring you the next chapter of proof that I will speak what I know to be true even when I know it's about to cost me a few thousand followers. I apologize in advance to anyone whose feelings I may hurt. If it hurts, just know it's probably true. Sorry; not sorry.

Why I wrote this

Something I've noticed since I assumed the helm at r/HotwifeCaptions is that there's a lot of confusion as it relates to the differences between the "cuckold" and "Hotwife" or "Stag & Vixen" lifestyles. It would seem that most people are legitimately unaware of the difference, or that one even exists. Let's clear that up.

Just today, someone made a comment asking if we would accept him as a member so he could share about his and his girlfriend's "cuck adventure." I reached out and sent him a message to let him know that he's more than welcome to join us, but we're all about Hotwife Captions, not cuckolding. He asked me a few questions, starting with "What's the difference?" I responded with a series of the usual canned responses:

• "The Internet has confused and mixed things up a whole lot."
• "Unfortunately, the differences come down to subtle nuances."
• "It comes down to the associated kinks that come along with each."

Now, those answers are not necessarily true or accurate. Admittedly, I was just being lazy. The truth is, it's a long story that goes much deeper and I just didn't feel like getting into it at the time. Sadly, I couldn't think of a single good resource online that I could just send him a link to that would help answer his questions, either.

It's a little confusing

I mean, to an extent, I understand his (and everyone else's) confusion. However, I've been doing this a really long time, and I've invested countless hours, days, weeks, months, and years of focused time and energy into researching and trying to better understand myself; who I am, why I am like this, why I like what I like, why these things turn me on... you get the idea. I mean, fuck, I've sat and read through the entire DSM IV and V several times over, not to mention a pile of books on sexual dysfunction and addiction. So, yeah. At this point, I just kind of "get it."

It really made me stop and think for a minute, though. Why are so many people so quick to rush to a decision when choosing a label for themselves? Is it the need for identification? A sense of belonging? Recognition? Validation? What is it? I mean, the first question I really wanted to ask this guy is, "what makes you a cuckold, exactly?" Most of the times when I've asked someone that question, the answer has been a blatant non sequitur.

Labels suck

You may notice that, in my artwork, I've always steered away from labels in general. Anytime people have commented or reached out to ask me personal questions about me or my wife, whether I'm a "cuckold" or a "stag", or anything else like that, I've always said the same thing: I don't identify with those labels. Fuck labels. I do this because I'd like to strongly encourage everyone to stop and think for a while when that fantasy first pops in their mind before they quickly search Twitter, decide on a label to attach to themselves, update all their social media profiles with that new label, or buy any t-shirts that will add to their confirmation bias.

EDIT: There was a section here that was very opinionated and I've moved it to the bottom of this post, not to hide but, but to keep people with different opinions from clicking away and missing out on the facts.

Anyway, I digress. Personally, I don't think I'm the sharpest spoon in the kitchen, but I do have Internet access, and that gives me access to a lot of different dictionaries. So, I've decided to write all this and to do some research to help bring some additional clarity to help everyone better understand where the line is drawn since it has become so blurry in recent years.

The definition of a Cuckold

Google, courtesy of Oxford Languages)

cuckold
noun
- a man whose wife is sexually unfaithful, regarded as an object of derision.

Merriam-Webster

cuckold
noun
- a man whose wife is unfaithful.

Collins Dictionary

cuckold
noun
- A cuckold is a man whose wife is having an affair with another man.

Dictionary.com

cuckold
noun
- the husband of an unfaithful wife.

Cambridge Dictionary

cuckold
noun
- a man whose wife deceives him by having a sexual relationship with another man

Partial / interim conclusion

All of these dictionaries appear to agree on the fact that a cuckold is a man whose wife is unfaithful.

The most interesting part about these definitions, though, is that all the definitions start with, "a man/husband", but the remainder of the definitions don't actually define the man himself; rather, they go on to describe his wife's actions. In this way, by definition, a cuckold is a man who is defined by his wife's actions.

Google (Oxford Languages)'s definition is particularly interesting in that it goes on to say that the man is an object of derision.

Cambridge goes as far as to imply malicious intent by describing the wife as someone who "deceives her husband."

Collins stands apart from the rest in saying that the wife merely has an affair with another man.

I wonder what we could learn by further expanding these definitions?

The definition of a Cuckold, expanded

Google, courtesy of Oxford Languages)

a man whose wife is sexually unfaithful, regarded as an object of derision.

unfaithful
adjective
- engaging in sexual relations with a person other than one's regular partner in contravention of a previous promise or understanding.
- disloyal, treacherous, or insincere.

Note: To say that the wife is unfaithful is fairly specific given this definition which dictates that the wife's actions contradict a previous agreement. I don't think I even need to expand on disloyal, treacherous, or insincere. They don't even sound good.

derision
noun
- contemptuous ridicule or mockery.

Note: This is where Google (Oxford Languages) really shines and helps us make a distinction. This definitively states that there is humiliation involved in cuckolding, and actually, that is quite in line with the oldest known definitions of the word. For example, Shakespeare wrote several plays all involving cuckolding in some way or another, and all were based in fear. The cuckolds suspected that they had been cuckolded and were fearful because that would have been a shameful thing. They would be mocked and ridiculed, i.e. humiliated by their wive's actions.

Merriam-Webster

a man whose wife is unfaithful.

unfaithful
adjective
- not adhering to vows, allegiance, or duty : DISLOYAL
- not faithful to marriage vows
- INACCURATE, UNTRUSTWORTHY

Note: This one is interesting in that it specifically references marriage vows twice. Who here vowed not to have sex with anyone else other than their husband or wife? Not I. I know my wife didn't either. Maybe some archaic Catholic vows forbade extramarital sex and included a "I vow not to have sex but anyone with you" clause? I don't know.

Collins Dictionary

A cuckold is a man whose wife is having an affair with another man.

affair
noun
- If two people who are married, but who are not married to each other have an affair, they have a sexual relationship.

Note: Now this one's a trip. It doesn't even really define the word, it just uses an example scenario to explain what it means. Even more interesting, though, is that it would imply (based on their own definition of a cuckold) that a man is only a cuckold if his wife has a sexual relationship with another married man.

Dictionary.com

the husband of an unfaithful wife.

unfaithful
adjective
- not faithful; false to duty, obligation, or promises; disloyal:
- not sexually loyal to a spouse or lover; adulterous:

NOTE: This one is really special. Technically, by definition, according to Dictionary.com, any man whose wife is false to her duties, obligations, or promises, or is otherwise unfaithful or disloyal in any way, is a cuckold. I guess everyone out there whose wife didn't get to the laundry she promised to get done this week is now a cuckold. LOL

Cambridge Dictionary

a man whose wife deceives him by having a sexual relationship with another man

deceive
verb
- to persuade someone that something false is the truth, or to keep the truth hidden from someone for your own advantage

NOTE: I really like this one because it highlights the dishonesty and moral corruption. It implies that the wife is having sex with other people for her own benefit and lying to her husband about it. That really clears things up.

My Conclusion

A cuckold is someone whose wife is unfaithful/disloyal. She just plain cheats on you, dude. That's it. Not because you want her to, and not because you don't, but rather, because that's just who she is, and that's just what she does. If you're a real cuckold, you should feel embarrassed by your wife's infidelity. It should cause you to feel shame, and that is the humiliation aspect – fear of humiliation from your friends, family, and peers – which again, is societal in nature. Just go read some Shakespeare.

Being a "true" cuckold is not supposed to be fun, sexy, or a turn-on. It's supposed to fucking suck. It's supposed to make you angry. It's supposed to make you feel hurt and betrayed. It's not something you suggest to your wife. It's something that happens to you against your will. It's not something you want or ask for, it's something you fear will happen and pray it doesn't.

If you don't identify with any of this, it's probably because you're not a fucking cuckold. Get a dictionary and find a better label.

– IWMWLT ❤️

Some morning-after thoughts

I wrote this post late last night and, after re-reading it here this morning, there's some things I feel that I could have better articulated. I'm not going to go and edit those parts out and pretend that what I first wrote wasn't written. It was, and I take full responsibility for that. That's my way of demonstrating personal integrity: even when I'm wrong, I'll still own it.

To be clear, as far as I'm concerned, there is NOTHING wrong with you or your sexuality, regardless of what that may entail for you. That is and always has been a big part of my message regardless of what form it has taken: it is OKAY to be YOU, no matter WHAT you're into. Whether you are gay, bi, transgendered, or a cross-dresser, and whether you are into the whole array of "other" related fantasy/kinks/etc., that's fine by me. Please do your thing.

What I take issue with is people being DISHONEST, MANIPULATIVE, and CONNIVING by misleading their partners into believing that they are a "cuckold" or have "cuckold" fantasies, when in reality, what they really want is the freedom to explore their homosexual interests without admitting they might be (or are) gay. In doing so, they have made the definition of "cuckold" itself entirely convoluted. I have good, close, personal friends in real life who are gay, and let me tell you: we've talked about this, I've said the same exact things verbatim, and they've all agreed with me 100%.

Further clarification

With regard to my closing thoughts in My Conclusion, I feel there is some additional points that need to be made. I was not trying to say that you're not a cuckold because you're actually into it, although that's how it came out. What I should have said is this:

Barring any of the aforementioned dishonesty, what the vast majority of the Internet believes to be "cuckolding", and what most "cuckolds" out there are in reality, is not actual or real "cuckolding." It's "cuckolding fantasy." For the most part, and to varying degrees, it's nothing more than role-play.

The idea of "my wife fucking other people turns me on" being a turn on for you however DOES NOT MAKE YOU A CUCKOLD because being a cuckold specifically (but often implicitly) implies your wife being UNFAITHFUL, DISLOYAL, or otherwise DECEIVING YOU, and also requires that there be an element of HUMILIATION, as I proved above with five different dictionaries.

There are plenty of us out here who enjoy our wives fucking other guys, and there's NO dishonesty or humiliation involved whatsoever. In fact, we enjoy it, and we're quite proud of it.

Other things to explore

Prior to identifying yourself as a CUCKOLD, I would strongly encourage you to explore such concepts as "compersion." That's not even a real word, but it has gained credibility. It was coined back in the 90s by members of the Kerista Commune in San Francisco, and it is loosely defined as "the opposite of jealousy" wherein people experience feelings of joy (as opposed to jealousy) from witnessing your partner enjoying themselves sexually with another.

Interestingly enough, as it was originally intended, it can apply to EITHER or BOTH partners in a relationship. The word itself and the meaning behind it have even been explored by the psychology community. See this article on Psychology Today, for example. What I love most about that article is how it explains that it can apply to many other situations as well, many of which are not sexual at all. It also best illustrates how "compersion" does not mean you will not feel any jealousy, but that the feelings of joy and jealousy can coexist.

The best message I could leave you with is this: FUCK THE LABELS. Be you. There's no need to label it. You can just say "I like watching my wife fuck other guys" and leave it at that. I know there's not a "ILikeWatchingMyWifeFuckOtherGuysCaptions" community on Reddit, so that makes it difficult to find other like minded folks, but let it be known: if you are like this, then you are like me, and you are not alone.

So, anyway, what's a "Hotwife" or "Stag & Vixen"?

That's why the rest of us have coined the term "Hotwife." Generally, it is accepted as meaning "a woman who is sexually liberated by her husband, with his full knowledge, consent, and encouragement." It should also be noted that "Hotwifing" has evolved over time into a whole community of folks who identify as "Stag and Vixen" couples.

The "Stag", being the male counterpart, could be most simply understood as being a cuckold without the lying, cheating, or humiliation. Rather, he encourages his wife to enjoy these extramarital activities, and he is usually the one in charge of these things that are happening FOR him, in contrast to the cuckold who idly sits by while it all happens TO him. Meanwhile, the "Vixen" or "Hotwife" is a GOOD woman who IS loyal, who IS faithful, and who DOES honor, love, and cherish her husband, and IS true to her vows by going along with him on this journey through life, for better or worse.

And THAT, my friends, is why a "Hotwife" is the BEST wife a man could have.

The opinionated stuff that was moved to the bottom

I'm going to warn you now... this is the part of the lecture where things are going to get a little abrasive, so hold on tight to that box of Kleenex. Oh, come on. Don't get mad and click away. Read it through, because I promise I've got a point, and I'm going to give you some good information. Also, please know that no matter who you are, where you're at in your life, what you're into, what your kinks are, what turns you on, or whatever else, I don't judge you. I fully support you right where you're at.

The confusion is real. Do you know how many guys reach out to me or comment on my posts fully under the impression that I am a cuckold, thanking me for introducing them to the cuckold lifestyle, or telling me all about their (mis)adventures as a cuckold? One guy just recently sent me a message saying, "Thank you so much bro. You and your artwork are the whole reason I became a cuckold!" I find this really intriguing because I am not a fucking cuckold. I don't know how many more times I have to say it before people start to believe me: I AM NOT A CUCKOLD. I AM NOT A CUCKOLD. I AM NOT A... FUCK!

Like, okay, I get it. At a very basic and superficial level, we do all have one thing in common: it really turns us on when our wife fucks other guys. But that's also where the similarities end. Personally, I just like it when my wife fucks other guys. I think it's funny when she convinces a guy that she's this naughty cheating wife whose husband is out of town and fucks him on the couch while I'm sitting in the next room laughing it up. I keep trying to tell you people: I'm just a twisted fuck.

Personally, I think all the labels out there are insidious little one-or-two word prisons that people lock themselves into. Over the past two decades that I've been creating and sharing my artwork, I've seen it happen countless times. Once a guy identifies as a "cuckold", he goes down this fucking rabbit hole, and the next thing you know, his wife is locking his dick in a cage and going out on dates with other guys while he sits at home sticking things up his butt while wearing her panties.

Frankly, I think there's a lot of gay guys out there who married women and later figured out that they could use the "cuckold" fantasy as a gateway (nay, trojan horse) to sneak some egregious homosexuality into their otherwise heterosexual lifestyle while their wife is none the wiser by convincing her that it's all about her and his desire for her to fuck different/bigger cocks, etc. That shit is manipulative and I refuse to sugar coat it: I don't like it.

If you're gay, say you're gay. If you want to go suck cock, just fucking do it. Stop trying to convince the world that you're a cuckold when you're not and you fucking know it. Stop blurring the lines of what it even means to be a "cuckold" in the first place. I mean, at this point, the term "cuckold" has basically become synonymous with "masochistic asexual beta male with an inferiority complex and homosexual tendencies who craves pussy-flavored man-cum."

I hate to break it to you, but that's not what a cuckold is. It's not about cock cages, cross-dressing, licking up other guys' cum, or being obedient/subservient. It's not about your bully from grade school. The humiliation involved in cuckolding is societal in nature, not a convenient, isolated, bite-size serving of masochistic humiliation from the guy of your choosing while he's fucking your wife.