I am a sapiosexual. I have spent years understanding and learning to accept my darker side. I have come to understand I love the extreme, I love the challenge, and I want the risk. I am single and unattached and I am happy. I would like to think I am intelligent. I am well educated, and into physical fitness. I am also very independent, but that being said, I am a switch. What happens in my darker secret world is not the same as my outward appearances. I am also very private and protect my reputation at all costs. I do not want to be judged and in turn do not feel the need to judge others. The sapiosexual part of me looks for someone who has deep meaning, understands themselves, knows what they want, and wants to understand me. Intelligence is a huge turn on for me!!

I love to listen, teach, learn, and encourage. I want a friend or friend group were we are allowed to discuss and possibly experiment with tolerance and understanding. I do not tolerate liars, abusers, or judgmental people.
I will accept all friends and be friends to all without limitations. Anything beyond that, to be brutally honest, I must be sexually attracted to you, and of course, you to me. This is not something that can be forced, nor is it something that should be, or will be taken personally. We all have our likes and dislikes, and attraction to me goes beyond what the eye beholds. It is disappointing to converse with some who do not understand the psychological component of this lifestyle or take nonmutual attraction as the fiercest form of rejection. I will talk and listen to anyone, but I do not have any energy for jealousy, negativity, chemical dependency, drama, or coddling personal insecurities in sexual relationships.

I own my a business, independent, and care for others and my time for play is limited. I keep searching for a likeminded person (people), that I can really get to know. Although risky sexual tensions excite me, I do not take meeting someone lightly. The world has become a crazy place, between the pandemic and socio-psychotics, I look for good dialog with someone before I take that next step. The three different partners in my pictures are first and foremost, my dearest friends. I protect their anonymity at all costs, as they request. Our roles have transcended and evolved, from slave, dom, teacher, student, pet - one thing we have in common is we are all Switches and experiment in the willingness to relinquish control. Bottom line - we trust is 1000%. No matter how many times people ask me, I will not relinquish their identify or share locations.

Although its not important, I hold numerous degrees and I am sapiosexual. It is inherent that we challenge the mind, body, and spirit to grow. I enjoy learning from reading and from others. I am a switch, I have experience with the dominee and domineer. I have learned that placing my trust in another to give them control touches a part of my sexual gratification that is overpowering. Whether I have that control or relent that control with someone, you cannot fully experience without knowing someone's deepest desires and inner thoughts. It takes our EQ to new levels, it takes time, persistence, and reflection. There are many "posers" here, and I warn you to look out for the "tribute focused" Doms. I take time getting to know my submissives and I would expect that same of any dom. Digging deep into someone is not only a vetting process but a learning and building these relationships takes time.

Right now, my focus is on building a solid and positive friend group. I am loyal to a fault, and bend over backwards to help those that are less fortunate. That being said, I will not be taken advantage of, sometimes it takes a while to build trust. My myers-briggs profile is INFJ (not that it matters) and I tend to gravitate towards other introverts that have a big personality once unleashed! I enjoy getting to know people at a deep level, and I love to learn and appreciate differences.

I used to be ashamed of my over-active sex drive. I have tried to contain it, hide and mask it from the outside, but it lingers underneath. I do not believe in labels of "slut, pervert, nympho, etc...." when it is meant to drive negative connotations. Instead, I embrace and like to freely discuss thoughts in a judgement free zone and believe it is important to know we are not crazy or different. Everyone has experiences that drive our wants and needs and shaming others because of who we are, what we do, what we've done, or want to do is unacceptable as long as it is always consensual. I know too many people that have been judged, called names, accused, or ruined reputations because of preferences, experiences, and rumors.