Since I don't know if I can post this on DB, I place a copy of the post here too. It's just too important for everyone to know .

As I often explained in my comments, our Libido is also regulated by hormones .

I made the first hand experience many times. So I thought I just share here what in my experience were the main reasons for my and my husband's LL/HL. This doesn't mean that it is like that 100 % for everyone always. Just one part and maybe it helps someone else too.

I am no scientist, so please just Google it if you need to dive in further into it. I will however insert the links for my sources

1: During my Age of 20-30 I noticed that the pill or other hormonal contraceptive injections would decrease my libido continuously down to nonexistent. I would then always take a break of 3-6 months and then restart.

Here is a page talking about this phenomenon.I directly cite the page here:

-"Hypoactive sexual desire disorder is the most frequently reported sexual symptom among women using hormonal contraception. In a study of 3740 women, the authors observed that 43% of them had experienced a reduction in sexual desire attributed to the use of hormonal contraceptives, compared with 12% of women who used hormone-free contraceptives [15]." Here is the source https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC8836660/#:~:text=In a study of 3740,-free contraceptives [15]

At some point after our kid planning was finished and I had trouble with Perimenopause and had to take another break from oral contraceptives, my libido came back 70% and we decided that my husband would now have a vasectomy.

1. Decrease in Testosterone in women during Perimenopause can start even at 35. I had mine finally tested at 46 after going from obGyn to ObGyn 4 years and only getting the "your lab is age appropriate" BS speech. My Testo and Estrogen were way too low and I started HRT. At this point my Libido was at 5% again and went up to 100% within a few days.

2. Decrease in Testosterone levels in men can cause the same as in women. Not only Libido, but also cardiovascular system, increase blood pressure, insulin resistance etc.

They go through Andropause . Androgen Deficiency in the Ageing Male (ADAM). The symptoms of ADAM are non-specific and may include:

• alterations in the circulatory & nervous systems (hot flushes, sweating, insomnia & nervousness);
• changes in mood and mental function (anxiety, irritability, poor sleep, constant tiredness, poor short-term memory & low self-esteem);
• changes in virility (decreased physical energy, decreased muscle strength & inability to participate in sporting activities); -diminished sexual function (reduced sex drive, poor erections & impaired ejaculation);
• changes in physical appearance (abdominal weight gain, loss of body hair, diminished muscle mass & loss of height); and
• changes in body metabolism & chemistry (increased LDL cholesterol, increased total body fat, osteoporosis & reduction in the red blood cells in the blood). Source: https://www.baus.org.uk/patients/conditions/7/male_menopause_androgen_deficiency_in_the_ageing_male/#:~:text=The common factor which lies,can contribute to health problems.

My husband tested topical testosterone for 4 weeks and saw an improvement on so many levels . We are now still waiting for his official drs appointment to get it prescribed. His conditions that improved went down again and he is suffering.

I hope this helps any of you ❤️