i literally opened my dms to 200 requests today for reference of how many messages i get, and here's how i filter them, for a general gist of what i dont respond to:

hi ❌

38m❌

i wanna assault you❌

hey❌

im in your city❌

racial slurs (???)❌

extremely detailed fantasy about me... ehhh depends on the amount of effort

just a picture of you ❌ (has worked once)

do you like ___ guys? ❌

dick pics ❌❌❌❌❌❌

slut, whore, etc ❌

can you tell me what he did to you ❌❌❌❌❌❌❌❌ (SOMETIMES okay)

lazily typed out, incorrect grammar, horny gibberish ❌

no post history ❌

i usually respond to DMs that are coherent and thoughtful, and i'll basically throw myself at a guy who shows concern. anyone with a lengthy post history is cool, especially if it shows their interests.

i'm very picky with the way guys communicate with me, which connects to me usually liking guys in their 40s and up (daddy issues i guess?). but i'll occasionally vibe with guys in their 20s too. i don't have a real race preference, despite my history. any petplay-esque or praise messages will 80% of the time get you a response.

i only really login to this account during mental crisis', so if i dont respond for a while dont get upset please! i also occasionally miss DMs, and if i get into a relationship ill sometimes disappear for months at a time.

if you don't know how to strike up a conversation with me, some of my interests are riot grrrl, fiona apple, hole, lana del rey, goth, coquette, scene, punk, and literally anything to do with alternative subcultures, TTRPGs, fortnite, gaming in general, tlou, philosophy, psychology, & writing.

MEETUPS:

i'm very very anxious and picky with meetups, which is sensible considering my history. if i could i'd meet up with magnus forever, but unfortunately his 16 hour shifts have taken away his freetime (screw capitalism for doing this to me). i don't have a guide to getting a response from me for meetups, because a lot of it is vibe-checking, if i get a bad feeling i likely wont text back. it's not a personal thing against you, but i'd like to not be trafficked, lmao. im not gonna do hookups after a day of knowing you unless im in a highly impulsive mood, so expect to talk for a while, and even then don't thing the talking guarantees a meetup. i am a very very anxious girl! sorry if i disappoint :,)

sorry for the lengthy post, thanks for reading!!!