I tend to get questions like how long I’ve been locked, or if someone has my key, or if I am owned, etc. etc. so often that I figured I’d answer all those questions and more in an easily link-able post (so I don’t have to keep repeating myself).

To start, here is a little background:

Hello, my name is Crystal, I am polyamorous, pansexual, and I have been into kink for a little over a decade at this point. I have collected a variety of kinks over the years which has lead to collecting a variety of toys and fun shiny gear over the years as well. In my time being involved with kink and bdsm I've learned that I am a switch, although I recognize that I do tend to lean towards being submissive more often than not haha. I used to run the tumblr blog 'selftraininglittlegirl' several years back (and a ton of other blogs), and I was and still am on fetlife under CrystalFay.

I am owned, and have been under my Sir’s control for several years at this point. The dynamic we have is mainly based within erotic hypnosis. My Sir and I live in different parts of the world, and I am waiting so very patiently to visit them again. I am extremely obedient towards my Sir, having been hypnotically conditioned (extremely consensually of course) over the years, and also just loving being a good girl for my Sir.

When it comes to chastity, my Sir holds my key metaphorically. It would be impractical for them to hold my key physically because of the distance, and because my form of chastity is very different than most. My belt is used to assist with my Sir’s rule that I cannot fuck/be penetrated. This rule was put in place to enhance my Sir’s control over my pleasure. It definitely helps keep me safe as well, since I am polyamorous, I do have another play partner, and I do go on dates here and there. I tend to wear the belt while going on said dates and hanging with other play partners to make sure others are following my Sir’s rules. I am very good at following the rules my Sir puts down, but not everyone understands (or wants to respect) the rules. The belt definitely works as an extra layer of security too, keeping me safe while I go out.

When it comes to the typical thing chastity is used for, self pleasure denial, my denial is not strict. If I want permission to cum I simply have to ask my Sir, each day, for permission. My Sir can either give me permission or deny me permission, they have control over my mind, body, and pleasure. If my Sir ever denied me self pleasure for prolonged periods of time I would do as I am told and not touch, because I am a good girl for my Sir, and to be honest, the belt would not even have to be used (lol tbh it might actually make the situation worse). To conclude, I very much adore the control my Sir has over my pleasure.

I currently own 3 belts ( 1 , 2 & 3 ), the first two of which are the cheaper metal T style belts, and third, my newest belt, is a wire style. The first I got around 6 or so years ago from sub-shop, linked -> here<-. The second which I got recently, came with 2 graduated plugs, also from sub-shop, linked -> here <-. The third belt I just recently got from lovegasm, linked -> here<- . I have only had a chance to wear the new cable belt a few times so I have not experimented with it enough to form a proper opinion on it. While putting my new cable belt together I noticed that no one had created a proper tutorial on how to put them together and there were a lot of questions about it so i made a hand tutorial with pictures.

My opinions on my belts and the different styles: (Coming soon, once i have had enough experience and experimentation with the cable style belt)

Because of the style of the majority of the belts I own and because of how my body is I am unable to wear my belt longer than 10 hours or so (or overnight), even with bathroom breaks (which I do take because I do not feel comfortable going to the bathroom with the belt on). The reason for this is because I get UTI’s very easily and the belts can cause them fast. To be honest though, others could get the same belts and definitely wear it for longer! This is just my experience.

So to summarize (aka make a tldr): No, I am not locked up 24/7. I am only locked to make sure my Sir’s rule of no fucking/penetration is followed by others, and not to deny self pleasure. I only wear my belts for certain occasions: while with other play partners, while on dates (since I am polyamorous) or for general protection. I also occasionally wear it to remind myself of my Sir’s control and if I want a comforting bondage feeling. I wear my belt for up to an average of 6 hours or so when I do wear it. With the type of belts I have and the way my anatomy is, I cannot wear my belts for over 10 hours or so (or overnight).

Thank you for taking the time to read!

~Crystal

P.s. if you have any other questions please comment below

(updated as of 11/13/2024)