One of the things that I look for in swingers is their communication style...

It shows me how polite you are. It shows me if you have complete awareness of what you want and don't want. It shows me if you have done the research and have a good understanding of the lifestyle. It shows me the things you value which then gives me an idea if our values match or not. It shows me if you are sensible and mature enough to talk about sex, fantasies, sexual health.

And most importantly, it shows me that you're also listening to me and that we're actually having a meaningful exchange.

I had an hour-long video call with a bull and all I can say was... Ang sarap niya kausap.

Hindi yung masarap as in it got me horny.

But I like how it was a sensible adult conversation about swinging experiences, logistics, sexual health.

We didn't flirt. We didn't boast about our experiences.

We just had a meaningful conversation about swinging. 😊