A long one, a detailed one, for all of you wondering. I'm 31 as I write this. I'm a kink lifestyler since I was 19.

I'm an academic by profession with a PhD in engineering and a penchant for research. A well-spoken man, I like to listen more than talk and I measure my words before I use them.

I'm a homebody and a nerd in some sense, not a geek by any sense though. I obsess over good, eclectic music and I'm teaching myself to play the piano. I have trained in classical Indian vocals, both carnatic and hindustani, before my balls dropped and my voice cracked though. A lover of all animals, I've always had a pet and while I'm grieving from the loss of one at the moment, I'll get one more soon. I enjoy cooking, I'm quite skilled at it as well but I'm not a stickler for recipes or a purist, I enjoy being liberal with everything, including seasoning my food.

I write, I do content writing to earn some on the side, I write poetry and erotica for myself. I love reading but research papers have taken over that segment of my brain right now.

I'm a sponge when it comes to learning. I don't have favourites, I enjoy learning about everything. I dive into random rabbit holes to learn about anything that interests me. We could talk about space, history, wars, geopolitics, etymology, food origins, aliens, the supernatural, business psychology, criminal psychology, sports, dinosaurs, wildlife, politics or honestly, anything else under the sun. Try me.

I discovered kinks through a journey which was a trial by fire at that point of time. Coming out of a breakup that shattered me, I had issues with self worth and I was down in a spiral when a wise soul suggested Omegle for interacting with new people. One thing led to another and anyone who knows Omegle knows what creatures inhabited most of it. Naive and absolutely unaware of the world of kink, I met "dom/me s" on there seeking validation. I got into a cycle of being abused and justifying it as "what an unworthy human like me" deserved while subjecting myself to more of it. About a year down the line, I met an actual Dom who introduced me to a kik group and that's where my education of kink started. The journey of self discovery and exploration, lots of days spent questioning myself before being able to accept this side of me, I settled down into the role of being a Dominant a decade ago.

I'm a nurturing man, a natural dominant and caregiver with a sliver of sadism. The daddy in me is a doting man, a romantic man, a man who enjoys spoiling my little and making them feel like a prince/ss. The dominant in me is strict, enjoys teasing, control and restrictions as well as humiliation, degradation, dehumanising plays. Finding balance of these elements is a science and an art that I have perfected over the years.

What attracts me to kink is the mental aspects of it. Building trust, a connection, the love, adoration, worship and the yearning to please as well as the vulnerabilities are so attractive and addictive. I do enjoy being a guide too. While the physical aspects are fun and I love indulging in them, I find them to be more of tools to drive a mentally stimulating play deeper rather than a physical play in itself. I'm not a huge fan of heavy impact plays or blood, but I do not mind making you squeal and squirm with a bite, some choking or some twisted nipples, some chem play, some wax, some ice, you know... All the fun things that don't have me swinging an implement to leave a welt on your skin.

I'm monogamous and while I understand poly relationships and dynamics, they aren't for me.

My DMs are always open, reach out but be civil. And type properly please, I just can't stand it if you abbreviate words that don't need to be abbreviated. You aren't saving time typing "u", you aren't sounding cool to me either, just stupid 🤷🏽