ABOUT ME

I’m BEAR, a 37 year old dominant from London, England. I have been active in the BDSM scene in one way or another for close to 20 years, bar a few instances of inactivity, since the age of 19 (I met my first submissive partner on MySpace - that’s how long I’ve been doing this 😅).

I am in an open relationship and I ask that this is something you’re comfortable with if you’re planning on chatting.

I’ve struggled with depression and anxiety for several years. I think I’m at an ok point at the moment mental health wise, it could be a lot better but it could also be a lot worse.

My last dynamic ended approximately two years ago and I have struggled to build a connection with potential partners since.

I began in Daddy Dominant and Caregiver roles before slowly transitioning into a more Sadist role. I suppose I would consider myself a Sadistic Daddy mixing both aspects of sadism and DDLG.

My kinks tend to veer more towards darker and sadistic elements, however, based on what my partner enjoys I will endeavour to indulge in kinks that we both enjoy. I look at dynamics as a two way street, I want my partner to enjoy what we’re doing as much as I am. If no one is having fun then what’s the point?

PHYSICAL ATTRIBUTES

• 5’11”
• White
• Broad shouldered, bulky ‘dad bod’ build,
• Epically bearded,
• Glasses wearer,
• Bald - a sign of high testosterone which may explain my constant horniness,
• 7.5” BWC.

HOBBIES & INTERESTS

Outside of kink I’m a big nerd. I enjoy graphic novels, science fiction, fantasy, superhero movies and tv shows, video games, comic conventions etc.

I work a very demanding, high level blue collar job. People think it’s interesting and exciting but I can assure you it’s very much the opposite heh.

I enjoy live music and I’m a bit of vinyl collector. I enjoy punk, emo, metal and 90s hip hop and RnB.

I love cooking and putting together my own recipes.

I’m an avid skateboarder but don’t ask me to do tricks, I just zip around the park.

WHAT CAN I OFFER

• Experience. I’m incredibly experienced and good at what I do - especially for someone new or exploring their kinks, I am a very good at guiding you gently into kink.
• Consent, limits and boundaries. Consent is super important to me (even during CNC roleplays) as well as a persons limits. Whilst I will push and explore, I’ll never go beyond or ask for anything that would make you uncomfortable.
• Aftercare. I’ll always make sure my partner is well looked after, especially after intense play sessions. Making sure that you both physically and emotionally supported. Your safety and mental wellbeing is my top priority.
• Commitment and dedication. My previous dynamic lasted for over two years, before the pandemic, during and after. It unfortunately came to an end after she moved away and decided to end things. I’ve had many dynamics that last for a several months so I’m in this for the long term.
• Friendship. For me, the foundation of any good dynamic is based on a strong relationship (this is something I’ll elaborate more in the section below). I would like to think I make a very good friend outside of kink and someone who you can always count on.

KINKS

I won’t write them all otherwise we’ll be here all day so here are my top 10 in no particular order;

Humiliation & Degradation, Watersports & Scat, Exhibitionism & Public Sex, Anal Streatching & Gaping, Facials, Tit & Pussy Torture, Creampies, CNC, Throat Fucking and Rope & Binding.

I know a few of these kinks aren’t for everyone and I wouldn’t expect the majority of people to indulge in them.

WHAT I’M LOOKING FOR

Personality - First and foremost, I would like to find someone who wants a relationship with her dominant outside of kink. I need someone who can converse and talk and wants to get to know her partner on a real personal level. I want to build trust and understanding.

I don’t want to be the person always initiating the conversation and I want someone who’ll send me cute good morning and good night messages, ask how my day is etc. Ideally, someone who would consider themselves clingy - I love that in a partner.

Location - Please be located either in the UK or around the north west of Europe (France, Germany, Netherlands etc). I want to be able to eventually meet IRL.

Physical Attributes - I think I’ve made it clear that I value personality above all else and I don’t particularly have a certain type of woman that I find attractive. I’ve had dynamics with thicc, curvaceous women to petite and slim. White, Black, Asian and lots of other cultural backgrounds.

Whilst not particularly necessary, I do have a thing for age gaps.

If you’re somehow still here, and would like to possibly chat, drop me a chat. Be prepared to move away from Reddit though to something like telegram, discord, Snapchat etc as I find Reddit to be terrible to use as a chat app.

Please type a little bit about yourself and what you’re looking for.