This is a public notepad where I continuously add to and modify the my kink list.

The main thread that connects my sexual interests is me having the control.

I'll share that my interests stem from trauma. The roles that I play during sexual encounters are a way for me to exert control, and get release mentally and physically in a way that's mutually safe and in control.

I've realized that through interactions with new partners my kinks have evolved over time. I've had the opportunity to meet a lot of great people, and have gotten to try a lot of really interesting things. Some of which have made it to the top of the charts of what I like.

Keep in mind, I don't need any of these, I enjoy mixing new ones in, and I'm fine to make adjustments or to delete parts for a scene. 

There are many specific acts and even fetishes that I'm into, but here's the main list:

Dollification - This one is on top because it's usually my favorite, and the thing that's most satisfying to me. There are several meanings for the word dollification, but the way that I mean it is like this: I enjoy dressing my partner from head to toe. We'll sometimes pinterest window shop in order for me to understand their personal style. I'll recommend that my partner buy certain pieces, get them myself, or use things from their closet that are to my specifications. Everything from the sky high heels to the hairstyle matters to me. Not that it has to be complicated, in many ways it can be simple. She'll dress up and we'll meet for a date. I'll notice the men looking at her like a piece of meat, then notice me. I love the reactions. It excites me knowing that for that moment she's my little slut. I sometimes lose opportunities because women are accustomed to dressing modestly. I always challenge boundaries in that way. Ideally my partner would be dressed to induce lust. A see-through top, plunging neckline, an impossibly short skirt. Incorporating skimpy clubwear into a higher end bar scene, etc. I get flooded in anticipation, lust, and thoughts of what I'll do when I get her alone. As I said before, I like to destroy beautiful things. I'll think about the sound of the clothing tearing, how much better the lipstick will look smudged on my shirt and across her cheek. How her hair will feel as I grasp it. The way the same eyes that are cordially smiling at me will possibly well up with tears. It focuses my energy and clears my mind of all the noise. It's the perfect way to start a scene. 

Ravishment/CnC - This has been the main theme of a lot of my play in the past couple of months. Typically it's a scene where I come in at night when she's sleeping, we role play something to do with the hotel we're staying in, or it's an authority figure, etc. Physically overpowering my partners, or coercing them into doing something is the main theme. The requests that I get for this are very interesting - it's a lot of fun!

Throat fucking - Pretty self explanatory - but there's nothing more satisfying than seeing thick ropes of saliva coating a beautiful girl's tits while her tears are ruining her makeup. And having the ability to control breathing, etc. This goes really well with bondage. 

Face slapping, spanking, Bruises, Choking - Impact play in general. If this is on the menu I'll usually get toys like floggers, whips, canes, etc. Choking is more of a control thing.  

Forced orgasms/Multiple orgasms - Orgasm control is something that I've recently gotten back into. One of my favorite things to do is get into my partner's mind. I like to build a mental map of how different types of touching, words, body language, and actions affect her. I learn what it takes to make her cum. The mental high from overstimulating a woman by forcing her to cum over and over is second to none. 

Rope/Ribbon bondage - Most scenes have an element of bondage, mainly out of convenience. It can be sensual, too - if the scene calls for it, but usually it's a means for restraint so that I can more easily use my partner as part of what was agreed to in the scene. 

Lingerie - I'm a sucker for lingerie. The quality stuff. I know my way around the better brands and have my favorites. Lingerie, like the dollification piece, makes me feel like I'm unwrapping a present in the sexiest way possible. 

Breeding/Creampies - This is very deep seated. I will always want to creampie my partner on the first round given the choice. I'll often bring up themes in the scene that revolve around taunting. It's a way for me to mark my partner, to claim her. For me, the marking and claiming piece is so real. I often think back on partners that I've connected with, the ones that were the sluttiest, most worthy of my cum. I stare into the distance during a meeting, or get lost in my thoughts thinking about the process of claiming her as mine. I'll see her name, or catch fleeting smell of her perfume, and it will bring me back to that exact moment - the final thrust of my cock into the farthest reaches. And the exact feeling of the release as I flood her with her reward - the feeling of the pulses of my cock pushing against her. Claiming my partner in this way is one of the most potent ways for me to truly feel like a man.