We’re still super new to all this, got our first gold today on one of our videos and figured a summary post would be fun.

My girlfriend and I were interested in exploring an open relationship since the start. I brought it up in conversation after she explained how she was bi, had only a few sexual partners, and wanted to explore her sexuality more. Meanwhile I’ve had my fair share of fun including previous open/poly relationship experiences. So naturally I offered a best of both worlds/have your cake and eat it too scenario where we both get what we wanted, a long term relationship and casual sex.

We spent months talking about it on and off while getting to know each other and growing the amount of trust, love, and comfort in our own relationship. We talked about everything we could think of regarding our boundaries, desires, interests, concerns, insecurities. All of it got covered and then some. Finally decided that pursuing the “swinger” lifestyle, where we played together in the same room, was the dynamic that worked best for us. The idea of having us go off separately didn’t sit well with either of us. There’s so much more room for miscommunications, understandings, jealousy and insecurities.

We eventually started putting effort into putting ourselves out into the dating world after I found a dating app for couples called “Feeld”. We quickly matched up with other couples who were interesting/attractive and found ourselves with our first swinger date planned for New Year’s Day.

We had a young couple over, set a “no expectations/no pressure” vibe. And just tried to focus on conversation and making sure everyone stayed comfortable while also having a good time. We did a decent amount of homework on the “lifestyle” and so we were prepared with an icebreaker game called “naughty jenga”. It’s played just like normal jenga but each block is numbered and corresponds to a flirty truth or dare question. We designed all the questions and dares.

The night went better than we could have ever expected. We ended up full swapping, having the girls play with each other, each guy spent decent time with both women in between two different sessions in the same night. Everyone came more than once and slept very well.

Since then (Jan 1st) we’ve played with that couple a few more times and have had a few other successful encounters of varied dynamics. We’ve had one awkward date where the other female gave us both a cold shoulder vibe all night and we ended up going home and having an intense sexual night by ourselves. So all in all it’s been an absolute blast exploring this lifestyle.

If I were to have a kink, it would be making my own homemade videos. I’ve always enjoyed taking videos and photos during sex, when this fact came up during our truth or dare game they showed approval and I was able to take a few sexy photos and was told I could share them with others as long as I blurred faces. It didn’t take me long to figure out I could post on Reddit in an attempt to meet other likeminded people and potential dates.

The evolution from complete newb with no group/sharing experience to having experiences like a mfff foursome, 30k karma and ~400 subs on OnlyFans. Has been the absolute best time of my life. The relationship I have with a partner has never been better, the future has never been brighter, and I’ve never felt more confident and capable in my life.

Hope everyone else out there gets the chance to pursue what their heart desires. 😇🙏