A lot of relationships have very flowery and superlative language, indicating that they find the partner the best _____ or the most _____. It may come from the understanding that one has to present themselves in the best light possible when attracting someone, embellishing virtues and hiding flaws. I think a more grounded approach is preferable, finding nothing wrong with wanting just an average person, being open and upfront about flaws, potential incompatibilities in order to avoid the disappointment once the other person stops seeming amazing, or the pressure of having to maintain an image that isn't you.

I think it's very beneficial to scratch behind the surface of words and actions, in order to understand a person to a greater degree, where they are coming from. Not only does it allow us to learn potentially a better way to be, but it also can defuse a lot of fights. We seem to just take words and actions for granted, assuming everyone understands a concept the same way we do. For instance: Love seems to be a composite of many different feelings(affection, care, trust, lust...), and each one of them has degrees to it. We end up just speaking in terms of loving or not, seldom about the nuanced extents, composition and flavors of love.

The belief that good intentions are the only thing required to being a good person, a good partner, seems very prevalent. I believe more is required. One tends to start feeling entitled to something they are used to receiving, leading to all kinds of negative feelings and behavior once the thing is denied. I believe that being mindful and proactive about avoiding taking the partner for granted is crucial to a good relationship.

A prevalent romantic idea is the desire to involve the partner in everything, to require them to fit every facet of your personality, preferences and interests. I think it's incredibly rare to find such a perfect match. In addition, there's only so much to a person that one is bound to steadily progress to the same-ish conversations, and feelings like they know all there is to know about the partner. So, I think it is beneficial to maintain a healthy desire for a partner, never fully sating yourself with them. To find friends that fulfil the flavors of socialization that one's partner doesn't. A slow burn rather than a quick burst.